Need hospitalization??

I need your guys' advice on something...

Lately I've been feeling like I'm losing control. My alters have been taking over without my permission and getting me into trouble (starting fights, etc.). This morning, I woke up with a burn on my arm which looks to be a cigarette burn but I don't smoke, I know that one of my alters does. He has done this in the past on numerous occasions including cutting. Lately he's been getting bolder and fronting more often. Should I be hospitalized? I go to therapy once a week and express my concerns but it seems to have fallen on deaf ears. Luckily I'm getting a new T in two weeks. My best friend doesn't believe in hospitals and says that they're there just to make money and drug you. Should I believe her? I hate going to the hospital and don't want to but I need to get control back or at least stop the self mutilation! PLEASE HELP!!

bdog212

I never said I don't believe in hospitals, or that they're only there to make money off you and drug you. What I said was in our past experiences with them, all they did was drug you (really, even the current staff and different hospitals were shocked by how many drugs you were on!)

I 100% believe in getting help, but where you want to go doesn't provide that kind of help. They work mostly with people who are singularly suicidal, suffering from abuse, depression, bulemia/anorexia, etc. Yes, they have Drs that probably can help, but....you've been there before. That happens maybe once a week, maybe, and the rest of the regular staff are nurses fresh out of school who don't do much more than arts and crafts and food delivery. And drugs. Lots and lots of drugs.

So I am pro-help, anti-our particular hospital system. Not all hospitals are bad, obviously, especially the ones you've been to recently where you are. They are AMAZING!! Just our local ones stink. Great for pregnancies and general emergencies, not so great for DID.

Hi bdog212,

Have you tried talking to them?

I had a look at you blog and read that you've started a journal that's a great starting point. Try letting them written notes, and asking what is happening to them, ask them to write or talk to you. And you try listening to them, and making some allowances to them as well.

I believe the one who burn the arm, is definitely communicating something. Try telling him/her to channel his feelings in another way. Maybe exercising? Kickboxing? Or art? Or anything he/she enjoys, that's not harmful for the body or anyone around. Tell him/her to consider the little ones inside who might hurt because of the burn.

I really don't know about hospitalization. Is your life, or the one of anyone around, in danger?

In your blog, you wrote other questions, if it is ok with you, I'll address them here.

Let me know.

Take care of that burn, try talking to them (the alters), and sending them love.

Sea

Sea,

Thanks for your reply! I will try talking to them more. But how do I know they're listening? I know one is but he's not the problemed one. As for the others, I have no clue if they're listening. I don't get any response when I talk to them except that some times they'll come out but I don't remember what happens when they're out.

I do believe that I am in danger. The deviant has told other's that he wants to kill in order to set him free or something like that. In the past, he has been violent to other's as well. Even tried killing two of my friends on two separate occasions. I'm afraid that when I move back home in two weeks and I'm around all my friends and family again that something might happen.

Thanks Sea! I would love for you to answer m TOUGH! HE'S JUST A BIG WUSS! HE CAN'T HANDLE A LITTLE PAIN! HAHAHA! I'M OUT OF HERE

Hello you two, and others.

bdog212 wrote:I will try talking to them more. But how do I know they're listening? I know one is but he's not the problemed one. As for the others, I have no clue if they're listening. I don't get any response when I talk to them except that some times they'll come out but I don't remember what happens when they're out.

How do you know they are listening? When they answer. Usually at the beginning they can be afraid, lost, or not wanting, or be willing to talk or communicate. So keep on trying. Leave them notes, talk to them inside, even if you think they are not listening, try to see how your body reacts, how you feel different.

Maybe try asking the one you already have communication with. Maybe he/she can communicate with others in the system.

Leave them notes in visible places, in a mirror, in a pocket, in your bedside table. Leave them treats as well. Maybe leave your alter who smokes a cigarette pack of the mark he likes with a note for him.

bdog212 wrote:I do believe that I am in danger. The deviant has told other's that he wants to kill in order to set him free or something like that. In the past, he has been violent to other's as well. Even tried killing two of my friends on two separate occasions. I'm afraid that when I move back home in two weeks and I'm around all my friends and family again that something might happen.

Humm, I'm not so sure that calling him "the problemed one" or "the deviant" would help to start a conversation. How would you feel if you were called that way?

He surely is behaving that way for a reason, a reason you may not know or not understand yet, but if you are willing to talk to him, and try to understand his reasons, his anger, or his pain, you may establish a better connection.

Communication is key, communication and respect for one another.

Contracts are excellent tools when doing agreements, but at the beginning some sort of communication needs to be establish. And if you believe you or anyone around might be in danger it is better to talk it over with a professional who can guide you better. Surely, going back home, will bring some distress to all of you, and thus, he might as well appear. So it is important that you set protections for you and the ones around you. Some threads in this forum talk about it, but I strongly recommend you talking to a therapist.

bdog212 wrote:TOUGH! HE'S JUST A BIG WUSS! HE CAN'T HANDLE A LITTLE PAIN! HAHAHA! I'M OUT OF HERE

HI THERE, WHAT'S YOUR NAME? WELCOME TO THE FORUM. HE CAN'T HANDLE A LITTLE PAIN? HUMM, I BET YOU CAN. YOU WANNA TALK ABOUT IT?

Sea

I understand what you're saying, and I sometimes come out as a son of a bitch, but I manage not to do anything that destroys me. I don't believe that one can go to a hospital voluntarilly without being abused by them, so although of course that is a possibility, it's not one that I would employ.