Self Help Book Suggestion for DID

Has anyone used or been referred any self-help books, in regards to dealing with D.I.D. and past trauma? My fiance who has D.I.D. is in prison, so he is not getting therapy, but I want to help him as much as I can. Since I am able to send him books I'd like to do this. He still needs to learn to accept that D.I.D. even though he knows he's been aware of it for 20+ years. He doesn't like it. Since he told me, I've been very accepting, and I think it's helping him. But he still has a long way to go. He also has not dealt with his past with a therapist either. He still gets flashbacks and has PTSD, so not sure if childhood trauma is a subject to start with, or if a DID book would include that.

Any suggestions on books that have worked?

Thanks,
JayBird

What happened to work well for me were some stories about people's experience that I could relate to. I read many studies about DID but I found that biographies and autobiographies of persons with DID allowed me to see the overwhelming parallels in my experience without having to be convinced I myself had DID. And I especially appreciated reading works about males with DID because it was just that much easier to relate to some details. So...

A Fractured Mind: My Life with Multiple Personality Disorder by Robert Oxnam
First Person Plural: My Life as a Multiple by Cameron West
The Magic Castle: A Mother's Harrowing True Story of Her Adoptive Son's Multiple Personalities and the Triumph by Carole Smith

The first of these mentions very little about abuse plus the man has led a successful life so it might be an easier start. The second describes less trauma than the third.

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Don't Tell: The Sexual Abuse of Boys by Michel Dorais
Betrayed as Boys: Psychodynamic Treatment of Sexually Abused Men by Richard B. Gartner
Abused Boys: The Neglected Victims of Sexual Abuse by Mic Hunter
A Man's Recovery from Traumatic Childhood Abuse: The Insiders by Robert Falconer

The last book is about someone with DDNOS, not DID, so while some of his experiences were less relatable, the disturbing but brutally honest description of memories of abuse allowed me to move from a mindset of "I need to reject that anything so horrendous, humiliating and cruel could ever have happened to me" to "that poor guy, I wonder what it must have been like to have been him."
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Putting myself in his place, and in the place of others I read about, really enabled me to just get over the unpleasant facts and think, well, sadly, this awful stuff happened to lots and lots of other people. The abuse and the DID wasn't their fault so it wouldn't be mine either.

Johnny-Jack
Thank you so much for the suggestions. I didn't think about books specific to males, and that makes a lot of sense, especially because the experiences may be more relative. I'm going to look into them. Thank you again.

JayBird

I really like Coping with trauma-related dissociation by Boone, Steele and van der hart.

Thank you sev0n

I ve bought The Haunted Self

it s rather theoretical and such but it does explain very clearly how DID works. Forgot who wrote it tho.

Best of luck!

Thanks Nina11.

I'm hoping to find something that will help him to become co-conscious. Right now that is his biggest obstacle. I'll look into the book you mentioned too.

Thanks,
Jaybird