Advice on talking to new T?

Well, I lost the original post because the site logged me out.

Anyway. Long story short, I've been in therapy for quite a while--dabbled on this site a while back, too--and recently, I've managed to get into college! Whoo!

Unfortunately, that means a lot of changes and a new T for us. She doesn't know about any multiplicity aspects--just the "us" we show to everyone else. We've never gotten an official diagnosis, which makes bringing it up with a new T a bit of a rough topic. We haven't disappeared with lack of a diagnosis though, obviously, so a DX isn't top priority to us. Instead, we focus on living a multiple life as smoothly and happily as possible. (We unanimously agreed that integration is not an option--we rely on each others' companionship and being on our own would be positively terrifying. We like our arrangement.)

Anyway, new T! She's nice, open-minded, and I don't have to pay for her sessions thanks to the college's insurance. However, bringing up this with a new T is tough, and made even more so by the fact that we feel we've come a long way with our previous efforts--we coexist pretty well (although if things get rough, a bit of guidance might be required), but we don't need a lot of psychoanalization about why/how/what to do.

I've been seeing this T for a few months now, and there's quite a few things that screw this all up, one of which being a possible physical gender transition in the future (discussed between all headmates--we take our cooperation protocols very seriously). Also, some of our own have been running into difficulty with things like anxiety lately, which could go over like a ton of bricks if not dealt with appropriately, and is causing a fair bit of unease.

Guess I'm having telling-T-nerves. My first T ended up making all of us pretty uncomfortable--despite our desire to avoid integration and keep our focus on cooperation, all the focus in our sessions was on how everyone else was a "part of" and not a partner. So... tips on explaining that we're not looking to be cured or treated as fractured/separated-into-parts to be put back together, but looking to focus on living and getting support for those of us that need it? Or, you know, tips on relaxing about telling a new T...?

hi there


Congratulations on getting into college. We hope that you continue your success through your course and your work with your T.

You said that you worked with your pass T about being a 'we' but not having an offical DX, could you get a letter of refferal from your old T to start with, given to you, to first see things from there perspectives? Now sure if that is any help at all! Even one tiny bit actually, in fact i think we are way off lol ok here is another one...

We have been in and out of thearpy for about 15 years one tool that has always worked has been to bullet point write out what we need to say b4 we go to the T. Could You do this b4 you go? You could take your post with you?

I keep going on about ego state thearpy but you could say that you do not believe that you are mearly 'parts' however you would like to be treated as in this type of thearpy where your T would converse with the part that feels the anxiety. Do you know much about it?

Have you spoken abot transitioning with your T? If not may i ask how it is she helps you now? Is it just service level stuff to keep things ticking over?

Hope that this reply meets you all in a good places
kind thoughts and wishes
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