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Sharing friends

Postby pepsinotes » Mon Dec 09, 2013 7:14 am

I'm just wondering if anyone else sort of shared their friends with other parts. One, the host and the one who's usually in front, is usually the one to introduce me to other people and we sort of share a friend. We're always co-conscience so I know everything she knows about the person and I decide if I want to talk to them or not. And when I do, she let's me sort of talk through her in a way, but that's mostly through online text conversations.

So my first question is: Does anyone here share a friend with a part? And how do you or the part feel about the sharing?

One and I have no problems sharing anything, but when she shares her friends with me, I don't really feel like they're my friends. I feel like they temporarily talk to me or think I'm One (we're a lot alike) even when I try to phrase things in a way that would be obvious that I'm talking. Even when they do acknowledge me, I feel like I'm sort of a third wheel, like I didn't earn this friendship. Like they only like me because they like One. Not to mention that the people she introduces me to are people who she doesn't want to scare off so I feel a lot of pressure not say anything that might scare them off and that pressure isn't letting me be quite myself and I feel silenced.

I realize I can go make my own friends, but honestly that's very hard and it takes a lot of time to form the same trust I have with One's friends. If you experience anything like this or have any advice, that would be much appreciated.

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Re: Sharing friends

Postby AshenGold » Mon Dec 09, 2013 6:52 pm

Three of my longtime friends have met everyone on my list below. Another friend has met all of that list over internet chatting. Now, six of my friends (including the above four mentioned) have met Aaryn through my body. And a whole bunch more met Aaryn through texting/chatting because he used to have his own Facebook page (a warning to those who think that's a good idea: It isn't. Trust me.)
Anna, F-18
Aaryn, M-23
Sera, F-24
Lore, M-27
Evangeline, F-22
Cassandra, F-22
Ryouta, F-18
Sevrin, M-39
Seth, M-34
Lucerus, M-37
Lane, M-35
Nanasei, M-19
Alex, M-16
Juliana, F-28
Snow, M-26
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Re: Sharing friends

Postby Seangel » Tue Dec 10, 2013 12:36 am

Hmm... I don't have DID. But I have a friend who has it.

At the beginning, I met Gatsby. Then because he told me about his DID, one day Evo appeared and said... I ain't Gatsby, and introduced himself. At the beginning, he wasn't so fond of me. We had to work hard to have a friendship.

Then Sahara arrived, and I tried really hard to getting to know her. And now we get a long.

I wanted, and still do, know all of them. I was dating Gatsby, and for me that's was the way, getting to know all of his team.

Ashen Gold, why do you say that having another Facebook Page it's not a good idea?

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Re: Sharing friends

Postby Una+ » Tue Dec 10, 2013 10:13 pm

We have this problem in a big way right now, internally.

Before she fused with me, for over a year Alter 5 cried about how the guy she was in love with does not know she exists. He still does not know but the dynamic is strangely changed now that she and I are fused, because he does know I exist. Only who am I?

Previously Alter 2 was very secretive and wanted to stay that way, but recently he had a change of heart and now he cries about his "friends" not knowing he exists.
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Re: Sharing friends

Postby Big_Bad_Harv » Wed Dec 11, 2013 11:02 pm

There are only two of us, so we're experimenting with introducing both of ourselves pretty quickly after meeting someone we'd like to get to know better.

According to my roommate (and common sense) it's kind of unnerving to think of me as one person with unpredictable mannerisms, and he's much more comfortable knowing both of us.
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