How well can you hide your DID?

I'm having a hard time being consistent in public - hard to believe right?
For example some days I drop off my daughter at school and I'm happy and smiling and look the principal in the eyes. Other days, I'm like a sullen teenager, unkept, grumpy and well, not the same as yesterday . . .
I'm wondering how you manage your DID in public, especially in places you go often or have responsibilities, like work? I've pulled way out of relationships because I'm so embarrased by the changes in myself. I need some ideas on how to cope here.

I share (most) memories with the former host, so almost flawlessly. Someone has accused me of "acting differently" recently but didn't offer any examples. I keep my composure at all times but inside, it's insane. Nobody suspects I have DID though. I'm sure of that. Maybe they think I'm just quieter because of stress.

Me too, desperately cause I can't hide it at all it seems. We're with the obvious 6% anyway. I think just looking at my face is enough to know I'm not me, even if we wear each other's clothes and try to mimic each other (which we suck at). It's crazy and we're so embarrassed that going to the same places or people regularly is really difficult and usually temporary. Every time we go out it becomes this intensely tiring event of trying to stay in one person, fearing what happens when we don't. The worst of all is that we really don't notice the switching until at least a few days later usually. I know we shouldn't be worried as that probably makes it worse. But we're so different that I can't help being ashamed when the wrong one is out once again cause everyone notices this right away, except me and even if I do notice it I still can't stop it.

Then, may I ask, when seeing doctors/social workers who do not know your real situation, (and if you want to hide your DID), how would you do?

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Sorry,I laughed a bit Well, hiding did is one of the most difficult things ever. For me, it is totally impossible. I guess it is hard for people to not realise I have a problem while one of my alters is crying ALL the time (because people get old, flowers "die", childs cry and so on) then five minutes later another one tries to get people into bdsm. I guess that working with yourself (talking to your egos) shall help.

can hide it well short term, but long term relationships (dating, friends,having to go into work, school or into therapy over a period of time) our inconsistencies become very obvious. i try to front as much as possible when out of the house to give our system a public face (and to help with consistency) and that seems to work ok-ish, as long as i don't get triggered or overwhelmed by the situation/day.

Being co-conscious and sharing the body helps!

Sonja sees it like a game to pretend she's me; it works with everybody except our T.

Jane is the only one who blurts things out, but she's shy of people, so it's usually when I'm alone.

Aiden doesn't bother pretending; he can't. So I appear numb/detached.

Niva is like me being keyed up. I do my best to keep her from being too vulgar...

It depends on the situation. If there's triggering stuff, then there's switches and inconsistency. But people sort of get used to that over time if you know them. So there's a lot of leeway in this, I think. The principal probably just figures that you were stressed-out that following day.

Seriously, the littles come out sometimes around friends and relatives, and you'd totally think that someone would notice something. But no one says anything.

But I think it also depends on how well you know them. Like, if you don't know someone's name and another alter just met them, that's usually okay. But if the other alter knows them really well, then it gets kinda sketchy. Usually, they don't expect you to remember details about their lives.

Depending on how oddly someone behaved, sometimes I end up apologising for it.

But mostly, you just act like this is not weird at all, and people usually follow your lead. One of my alters did this thing that's out-of-character for me, and this kid I know comments on it, and I said to this kid, I was sent here to mess with you. It's when you have no explanation that people look at you funny.

So uh... I don't really think we hide it well at all, although superficially if we meet people in only one setting, I think we manage it alright. But that doesn't appear to matter to most people.

Familyof3 wrote:can hide it well short term, but long term relationships (dating, friends,having to go into work, school or into therapy over a period of time) our inconsistencies become very obvious. i try to front as much as possible when out of the house to give our system a public face (and to help with consistency) and that seems to work ok-ish, as long as i don't get triggered or overwhelmed by the situation/day.

Wow, exactly as I would describe myself!