Traffic and communication

For those who has experience with DID/DDNOS, how do you manage the 'traffic' inside? How do you talk to your alters?

I've been reading a lot, and the most common suggestion is to talk to them. The problem is others keep interfering when I wanted to talk to a particular alter. I thought it was good to let them write what they feel, but I can't control who's talking. Which probably a good sign for me that I'm not making them up, but it's exhausting. The more I 'listen in' the more tiresome it is :/ I usually just ignore them, but it feels like my head is expanding like a balloon sometimes, if that makes sense.

I'm not particularly good at talking either, and sometimes I feel there is no need for me to know about them. I mean, what's the deal knowing what they like and stuff? It sounds stupid (sorry). Even when I tried I got things wrong. I tried many times asking 'what do you like?' and all I get is 'I like ____'. I mean, WTH? Like, literally blank spaces. What am I supposed to do with answers like that? (Probably the source of my frustration, that's why I said it was stupid). How am I supposed to accommodate everyone when there are so many (not *that* many) of them? I don't get it :/ Sometimes (like right now) they are doing nothing than staying in my head and messing with me. They could have been more productive, at least :/

I don't really feel motivated to get to know them, really. If they even exist.

I wish I had more experience with this, and I really hope someone with much more wisdom can come a long and help you better then I can.

I say go slowly. Don't try to push them.
I don't think I have fully developed alters who take control of me. I do think I've got some alters...but I'm very co-conscious with them.
I've tried to push the alters...tried to get them to let me know them better. But I too got a lot of blanks from them.
Sometimes I wonder if I'm not just crazy and making everything up lol. grrrr

Something I've recently done in the last month is pick up a new journal. It's our journal, and it's our safe place. I invited any part of me to write whatever I want to write...and I've made a commitment to myself and to the rest of me to do my best not to judge what I'm writing, or stop myself from writing whatever I want.
I think it's slowly starting to work. At least when I go back to read through the journal, there's times where I stop mid thought in the journal, and start writing about something completely different.
And it's only for us. No one else will every see this journal. I've promised not to share it with my therapist or anyone...
But I'm not trying to push them with it either. If they never want to say anything, that's perfectly fine with me.

I think it's just about giving them time, safety and acceptance. There's parts of me that drive me crazy and parts of me I loathe...but I think as I start to accept them instead of hating them, they'll start to open up to me and I'll start to be able to understand that part of me more clearly. It just takes time.

...Wish I had better answers for you :*(