Why go?

So my sister has been in therapy for years. Obviously they have discussed me. My sister called today and said she was telling her therapist that it looks like I will have insurance in a month and be able to go to therapy myself, but knowing me I will change jobs and not be able to continue. So, this therapist is so concerned that she wants to reach out across MANY state lines and find me someone to see. If this therapist thinks my childhood was so bad that she wants to do this and I don't remember it, do I really need to open that can of worms? I mean, I function for the most part. I work, etc.

I'm gonna go right into the question in the subject line and say....the worst that can happen is the therapist starts to say something that makes you feel uncomfortable and you stand up and leave saying, 'nope, this is not what i need" the best is that maybe it helps you with some aspect of your daily life stressors that you didn't even know could be easier, more joyful, etc.

I went to a counselor yesterday and she made one observation. one. and it has flipped a switch in my thinking that has helped me stop grasping onto something I needed to release. it was the 'key' i could not, even as bright as I like to think i am, figure out alone. So..to me...there is enough to talk about in our day to day lives having support or guidance would help - that person is not likely to jump into the deepest/oldest wounds....

Just my thoughts. Good to 'see' you.

Good to see you too Hope. You have some good points. It's just that when you hear some of the horror stories that are people's lives, sometimes it is great to not know.

YOu know I ask myself this all the time ......that being said please dont read on because there are going to be alot of triggers in my response Im sorry..........





















I dotn see the need for therapy all the time I would liek it once in a while but common sense well our common sense kicks in. We are highly functioning group of people we work full time we can function in our day to day life for the most part. DO we have issues you bet we do. We dont trust therapists our adoptive parents drug us from one to another in the hope of being vindicated that there was something seriously wrong with us and for pity. If they didnt like their answers we went somewhere else or the reverse we got hospitilized LOCKED UP to appease our parents or were abused by being beaten locked in our room, locked in dark bathrooms or wine cellers all at the suggestion of therapists.

So we are supposed to trust them now I dont think so. We have a life that ahs its ups and downs and honeslty Ive not ever met a therapist yet that didnt only want to focus on integration when we have expressed that we dont want that ever we are our own people. We function as we are. That to us feels to us to much like saying other alters are wrong and need to disappear into one another to be normal Well ###$ normal each one of us is important and has a right to thier own lives feelings experiences

Sorry rant off

Ashley

I go because I want to feel what happened, not just be swamped by feelings, and memories that aren't mine/don't make sense.
I go because I want to be out of the void, out of chaos.
I go because I want to be a thriving person and feel real, not just be an animal in survival mode.
I go because I want, eventually to have some sort of long-term stable identity and goals.
I go because I feel I must, that the key to healing/unlocking the door and becoming alive again is somewhere down this path.

I go because we certainly aren't getting things done on our own.
Surviving yes, flying under the radar and avoiding pain yes, but not living, not really.

Or at least thats how I feel.
The others disagree/have their own reasons.

Wonderful responses. Thank you all.