Triggering an alter ...

Directed towards Mr. Bates because he mentioned something in a post, however I will be glad of any and all answers...
In one of his posts he mentions something about triggering an alter to go back inside, I know my alters get triggered to come out all the time, and I am still having a lot of trouble with random switching, so I know that is a co-conscious thing, however, I can only speak to a few alters and not all the time, and especially not while another is out. How do you trigger an alter to go back in? How do you do something from the inside, especially when I don't even know I am on the inside? Thanks...

We're co-conscience, Frank and I, at least when we're awake at the same time. So I know I'm inside when he's out, and we do talk. I didn't even think about the bed, Frank suddenly got a feeling to get back in bed, knowing it would switch us back. Apparantly the bed has some power over our switches, which makes sense, since he normally comes out when I'm sleeping. Though I can fight back when I want him to do/don't do something, being the tough little bastard that I am . I really don't know what triggers an alter to go back in, I guess go back to the point of trigger. Cuz thats basically what we did. Switched in bed, switched back in bed. I'm still getting (re)adjusted to this whole multiple thing, myself. So, sorry if my answer wasn't much help.

thanks, anything is helpful, we are not co-conscious as of yet, so i guess thats my biggest problem right there oh well, we will figure it out thanks!

HI LALALARK,

HAVING PROBLEMS WITH YOUR ALTERS? THEY CAN BE A PAIN. HAVE YOU TRIED JOURNALING? I HAVE FOUND IT HELPFULL IN GETTING TO KNOW MY ALTERS. I HAVE TO NEGOTIATE WITH MINE; TO ALLOW THEM TO WRITE WHATEVER THEY WANT, AND NOT EDIT OR CRITICIZE. I HAVE FOUND IF I CRITICIZE, INSTEAD OF JUST ACCEPTING THEM FOR WHO THEY ARE, THEY REFUSE TO COMMUNICATE WITH ME. SOME OF THEM SEEM TO HAVE VERY SENSATIVE EGOS, OTHERS ARE VERY INSECURE.

RATIONALIZING OR REASONING WITH THEM WORKS SOMETIMES. I TRY TO RESPECT THEIR POINT OF VIEW, BUT PRESENT AND EXPLAIN ANOTHER, THAT MIGHT WORK BETTER. SOMETIMES THEY DON'T BUY IT AND I GET AN EARFULL OF COMPLAINTS. THEY CAN BE VERY STUBURN. IT TAKES PRACTICE, AND A LOT OF PATEINCE. KEEP TRYING AND LET THEM KNOW, YOU WANT TO GET TO KNOW THEM BETTER, AND BE UNDERSTANDING. THEY SHOULD LISTEN.

GOOD LUCK, AND LET US KNOW HOW IT TURNS OUT.

BENNY

Thanks Benny!
My little ones like to speak to my my best friend more than me. Its frustrating because then i have to rely on her to tell me what i need to know. Sometimes i can communicate with them and that is such a good feeling!
Journaling sometimes helps, but there are so many of us that it tends to get chaotic and then our body sort of shuts down before any real work gets done. Same thing when we tried having meetings. There is just so many, we cant even do a role call.
So chaotic.
But it can be very interesting.
I just want the communication between us, but it is so frustrating.
Most of mine are pretty cooperative. But we have had some problems... I dont know, its still the beginning, things will get better I hope...