Private questions for DID mothers *Trigger Warning

This is a private subject you don't have to reply at all.
But if you do you can PM me if you don't feel comfortable putting it as a post.

How much switching occurs during labour?
How did you deal hormones and alters?
How did you explain to others the belly?

I did not know about my multiplicity when I had my babies, but I can tell you that during labor I was fully present. My husband was there too, so I am sure about that. I was completely grounded, in full possession of my body. If anything, I completely shut out the insiders. I do not recall experiencing any passive influence.

Many, many of us experience labor and delivery without mishap. If anything, we seem to be at the top of our game.

Thank you for replying we thought it might have been to much of a private subject

I can only answer for the first part of pregnancy but I can answer if you feel you would want it

lifelongthing wrote:I can only answer for the first part of pregnancy but I can answer if you feel you would want it

It's entirely up to you and what you feel comfortable with. You don't have to if you don't want to.
You can PM if you like. I don't want to push privacy and boundaries.

My sense of privacy is fine with this, *trigger* it's just whether or not you're interested considering I couldn't carry full-term on either of them

We are very interested in all facts surrounding DID and pregnancy. There is a high chance we are pregnant and kind of afraid of how are systems going to react (very early in). And just wondered how others coped and managed alters things like that.

Sorry for bringing up a sensitive subject we are very afraid.
safe hugs if wanted it must have been a extremely hard point in your life

Congratulations on the possible pregnancy first of all.

It's alright that you brought it up, and thank you for the kind words Grace

How did you deal hormones and alters?

I was hormonal from the start because I was very young, and with the pregnancy hormones on top as well as continued trauma, I was a firework of hormones. I will say though, that being pregnant was also the calmest I've been during my life. I was able to focus, my severe anorexia would dissipate and I would be calm and functioning and honestly, felt happier both times (though with the bouts of crying and stuff that usually comes with pregnancy hormones). Other than that I will let two of us answer.

I was out for the first pregnancy the most. I noticed I was almost always out, which is rare for our system that anyone is. I felt more grounded but also so much despair, but that was because of trauma that was occurring, not because of the baby itself. The switching as said was a lot less and the kids who were out and noticed something was up were talked to by others inside.

I was out almost entirely for the second pregnancy and while I was normal pregnancy hormonal I didn't struggle with much else. I was happier, calmer, more confident. This started even before I knew for sure I was pregnant. Looking back I can plainly see I switched a lot less, being used to losing a lot of time. I was very present in the body and had a sense of self worth I didn't usually have at that time.

How did you explain to others the belly?

You mean to alters?
The first time around not much was explained. We were very young.
The second time around some (Leo?) explained to the littles that inside our belly was another little person, not like an alter, but an "outside person" (e.g outside the body) that was supposed to grow inside of there and come out later on. This person would be our baby that we had to take good care of and love. We explained that when the baby grows, the stomach grows and that means the baby is happy (hence why now sometimes the littles say "happy belly " when they see larger women ).

I'm sorry if this didn't answer any of your questions. Feel free to ask, this isn't too private for us

thank you very much it really does helps us out. I can feel motions and activity so others have been reading.

We gave are self the worry that we are going to be a switching mess throughout the entire thing but I'm guessing many woman naturally ground themeselves.

It was quite scary the other night Chaz freaked out whilst watchin the movie 'knocked up' at on of the first Doctor scenes. so I figured we needed to get him calmed down.

But this has definately calmed many down in the system thank you for your help

I'm glad we could be of some help

I think for many there is some natural grounding going on, mostly because stress isn't good for the baby, and so I guess nature does its thing to keep you not so stressed

If you have any questions feel free to ask or Pm