How are you today thread (trigger warning)

Take care of yourself. Feel better, and hopefully things will improve. Friendship is always helpful.

I still need to sit down and watch Encanto.

ArbreMonde oh that system error sounds so stressful to deal with! I wish the system had an iota of like compassionate response time. like all the hoops you have to jump through is just ridiculous.
Hoping things get better soon. Take care <3

This is Yuna-lee.it is our first day co-piloting together to represent 'host'.

The system has decided the body really needs an official fronting host instead of 'many different others pretending to be who the outside world thinks is the personality of this body'

From now on we get up together every weekday,walk the dog and decide what jobs need doing around the house and spend the mornings doing work and learning to work together simultaneously. For external appointments also we will both have to be present (not Y taking over cos L doesn't want to have to deal with iRL social situations).

Kit will remain in a supervisory role in the background in case she is needed, to advise only (not to take over ..but because she has experience of being a 'solo host' in the past and has knowledge we may get asked about - eg asked about previous level of mobility at medical appointments and testing of memory for stroke recovery assessments) SG also has these memories as she was ''Maddie's changeling' and carries her fragments of memory and is currently blended within Lee to stabilise mood and anxiety until thyroxine levels properly stabilise.

Juno will remain inside when Yuna is 'working' on the outside as she specifically really wanted to get more time with one of the guardians who she was in a relationship with in a past life and they'd both really like to continue the relationship on the inside (but much of her time gets taken up 'twinning with Yuna'). This way Juno gets her needs met too and they can spend time together when Yuna returns inside after 'work'.

Kit will join Lee out front for leisure time when they are playing their favourite games together (SDV, Zelda, MC etc) though they promise to currently focus on social sims more to improve their social skills/relationships as part of our rehabilitation but we (YL) must do the physical gaming exercises together to get the body stronger that are part of the 'official physio' routine for our 'Stroke Recovery Program'.

This was the system's ruling. So...Laundry day today...Mr Woof has had walkies early cos we're getting heatwave again this week..washing machine has finished so off we go! ...first housework task just us two co-hosting together!

[Kit in background ...can someone send me a stiff drink pls!...think I'm gonna need it!! ...joking]

Yuna-lee!

Hi. I'm glad to hear that things are working out.

So...how am I doing?

Other than frustrated with my father who is depressed but unwilling to work on getting better. He had a very minor stroke, but has been letting his depression get the better of him. I can't go out to help him much because of the autism making it hard for me to handle being away from my area for long periods of time.

However, the good part of my life is that I've been getting support from a few other systems and my best friend and I were talking about how I feel like I'm faking sometimes but she knows that I am not because of so many reasons. One of the reasons why was just how exhausted rapid switching makes me, and that has only happened once in her presence. I still get the feeling of 'faking it' at times, but I know it isn't. I sometimes wonder if that someone in the system wanting to go back to before we knew.

-Vi.

ViTheta wrote:Hi. I'm glad to hear that things are working out.

So...how am I doing?

Other than frustrated with my father who is depressed but unwilling to work on getting better. He had a very minor stroke, but has been letting his depression get the better of him. I can't go out to help him much because of the autism making it hard for me to handle being away from my area for long periods of time.

However, the good part of my life is that I've been getting support from a few other systems and my best friend and I were talking about how I feel like I'm faking sometimes but she knows that I am not because of so many reasons. One of the reasons why was just how exhausted rapid switching makes me, and that has only happened once in her presence. I still get the feeling of 'faking it' at times, but I know it isn't. I sometimes wonder if that someone in the system wanting to go back to before we knew.

-Vi.

We're sorry to hear about your dad, was he badly affected?

Some of our system have wished we could return to how things were before sometimes but now everyone seems to realise there is a better feeling of strength and unity because we all know of each other and its kind of like having 'an inside family' as we don't really have a family life in the outside world anymore. Bro will not be socialising with us much now there's no partner wanting to invite us and he hates xmas. Though with this cost of living crisis, him not having a designer g/f to buy for maybe a blessing for us!

Can your best friend help you with getting to see your dad? or is he in another country or something? -YL

Thank you YL.

My father was not badly affected by the stroke. He has ataxia, however, and has been having trouble with his balance.

We're doing what we can to take care of our father, but I had to take care of our mother for almost two years before she passed, and that was taxing. We live here and make food for him and try to encourage him, but he doesn't listen to us. Truth is, we never had a good relationship with him. Luckily, he starts physical therapy today and hopefully he'll start feeling better mentally. We're also going to talk to our aunt (his sister) so that she can help maybe getting him more social interactions.

It's also taxing to try and take care of ourselves. Vi is doing her best, but I know it gets to her.

Beth.

ViTheta wrote:Thank you YL.

My father was not badly affected by the stroke. He has ataxia, however, and has been having trouble with his balance.

We're doing what we can to take care of our father, but I had to take care of our mother for almost two years before she passed, and that was taxing. We live here and make food for him and try to encourage him, but he doesn't listen to us. Truth is, we never had a good relationship with him. Luckily, he starts physical therapy today and hopefully he'll start feeling better mentally. We're also going to talk to our aunt (his sister) so that she can help maybe getting him more social interactions.

It's also taxing to try and take care of ourselves. Vi is doing her best, but I know it gets to her.

Beth.

I (Yuna) was my mum's carer too when she had cancer it was very hard and I was the only one old enough at that time.

Hopefully physio will advise him on walking aids if that is possible for him. We have balance and co-ordination problems too. It is very frustrating because you know in your mind what you want your arms and legs to do but doing it is another thing, especially when standing too and trying to keep your balance.

Exercising his core to keep that strong so his sitting balance is strong will help and also help his standing balance if he is able to move towards walking independently again.

He will probably be very frustrated with the effort it will take to attempt anything to start with. You will both need to very patient.

Thank you.

We're trying to be patient, but we also don't have a great relationship with him. It doesn't help matters that he doesn't exactly have patience for getting better. We're working out things and hopefully he'll be better with physio and other help.

Theta.

well we've survived 3 consecutive days working together...lol!

[Yuna] Gonna get some jobs done this morning.make dinner then leave L and K to play! I'm going back inside to visit Juno but will be bringing LS out for a visit Sunday.

[Lee] We're starting year 2 of Stardew Valley this weekend! ..and LS wants to do a bit more of 'Littlewood' with me- the game we started together We are seeing an improvement in Fine Motor skills, it would take us ages at first in the jobs that require lining things up precisely like for planting and watering the crops in these kind of games. We're getting much quicker. We hope to master the fishing mini game in SDV by the end of (in-game) year 2 which is all about precise timing!

Next week we will aim for more consecutive days working together as busy week, trying to get stuff in for doggie's birthday before the postal strikes start here otherwise it won't get here in time. Sorting & planning for what we need to get in for winter before the prices shoot up even more, then all we have to worry about are the energy bills!

Yay for all of your progresses!!! Congrats!!!