How are you today thread (trigger warning)

gremandco wrote:sister and mom are out of the house for 2 weeks officially, so we get to stay inside the house and relax a bit with the animals and the TV. it's way chillier out here than it is in the garage, so i'll have to wear my hoody and pants instead of my shorts and tank top that i've been wearing.

i also got the 55 dollars mom owes me, but she gave me 60 dollars instead, so that's nice. maybe we'll go up to the store later today and buy some chow mein and canned ravioli. and ketchup, since we're out.

grem (host)

Two week session of Minecraft???

was up earlier but ended up needing to nap. feeling ok we suppose, slept well. no obligations today thankfully. still tidying, have cleaned off a shelf to put lego on it.

finished the second Harry Potter set, the clock tower, yesterday evening. had a lot of fun playing with Lego, really lost track of time, something that happens when we are enjoying ourselves.

KitMcDaydream wrote:Two week session of Minecraft???

haha! maybe not quite that long, but i think we'll do something

***Trigger Warning for Mention of Sexual Orientations and Other Sexual Stuff ***

Hi, all.

The past two days have been hard on us and in ways that I couldn't get myself to talk about, even on here.

For those of you celebrating Pride Month, you might find our last journal entry interesting. We list our "main" alters by our sexual orientations. It's significant because it's the closest thing we have to a system census since we had a mass fusion months ago. Here's the link: https://oyeswedid.livejournal.com/70671.html

Um ... in the listing, I put myself under Other/Complicated because ... I am. SO ... if a woman is attracted to males AND androgynous people, is she straight, bisexual, or something else that I've just never heard of before? Curious what people who know about this queer stuff have to say.

- Marcella

Hi. I'm Jadden. I don't want to darken the littles' thread with this but ... is it normal for a little to feel sexual arousal? See, I am like 9 in the mind but, if I like ... look at "naughty" images in our mind, I feel things that "older" alters feel when they look at similar images in the mind. Not that we like porn or anything like that ... Um, I just want to know if this is okay or if something is just wrong with me.

- Jadden

... (Sighs.) Yeah, I don't know what to do about him (Jadden). This happend after a 12-year-old alter had a sexual awakening the other day, and that was something I didn't want to talk about. Jadden then got curious about sex aaaand here we are! Any advice will be appreciated.

- Marcella

don't want to darken the littles' thread with this but ... is it normal for a little to feel sexual arousal?"

our therapist says that it is common but not perceived as sexually, one just knows something feels good.

When we started to post this, we realized that some of it would be more appropriate in our journey thread, so we moved that part there.

Now we've forgotten what we were going to post here after all.

***TRIGGER WARNING - DENTAL, MINOR ILLNESS (MINIMAL DETAILS)***

We've been dealing with a chipped crown since our last semi-annual dental checkup. Back then our dentist said that the chip wasn't severe enough to warrant attention, but yesterday she said that it was time to replace it. We need to go to a specialist for root canal.

Dental has never triggered us. We're looking forward to getting everything fixed, particularly since the dental issue is tied in with a chronic sinus issue that began last fall. The one way to resolve both issues is to get this dental work done.

What does worry us is the financial impact, since we're still unemployed. Even though we have insurance, this procedure may still have additional out-of-pocket costs. And some of us are intimidated by the number of appointments involved, as well as the amount of effort needed to navigate the process effectively and with minimal triggers.

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Well, we've made this post a little longer than we intended, even with moving the other part elsewhere. We hope that we've kept the details minimal enough.

Sending good thoughts to everyone.

MDs

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Marcella@Truly_happy wrote:if a woman is attracted to males AND androgynous people, is she straight, bisexual, or something else that I've just never heard of before?

She is... whatever word she feels comfortable using to label herself!

A few words that can be used:

straight: attracted to at least one gender different than yours.
gay: attracted to people of the same gender than yours.
bisexual: attracted to at least two different genders.
gay-flexible: attraction to mostly one's own gender but sometimes, to other genders. ("flexible" can be added to any attraction for a mix-and-match)
diamoric: attracted to non-binary people OR in a relationship where at least one person is non-binary.
polysexual: attracted to many different genders, AND their gender has an influence over the type of attraction felt.
pansexuel: attracted to many different genders, AND the gender has NO influence over the type of attraction felt.
demisexual: attraction needs a strong emotional bond first before the attraction can be felt.
greysexual: attraction just... pops up randomly but rarely.
asexual: the attraction felt is NOT of sexual nature (example: romantic attraction, aesthetic attraction, sensual ((cuddles)) attraction...)

Dont find one you like? MAKE UP YOUR OWN! They can all be mixed and matched at will!

Examples: demi-straight lesbian, for a lesbian who, because reasons, feels attraction towards ONE man she has a very strong bond with, and attraction towards all women (such as, she fell in love with a trans man before he transitionned and realized that, well heck, he was cute as a girl, he's still cute as a boy, ME GUSTA, he's the exception to my lesbianism). Or, asexual panromantic, for someone who feels no sexual attraction but can fall in love with any gender. Or, poly-sensual aro/ace, for a person who feels no sexual or romantic attraction whatsoever, but has a strong cuddle-attraction towards many different genders, each with their own specific type of cuddle-attraction.

In the end, what's important is to feel comfortable with the label that you use. You can fall under one label and still prefer to use another! It's like, there are many different words to say that someone is pretty (beautiful, gorgeous, cute...) and even if you can technically be described as "pretty" you might prefer to say that you are "handsome" because it feels more right.



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I also agree with what Little Daria said to Jadden. As long as the rules are clear about how to respect others and keep yourself safe, you don't need to worry yourself about this. It can be uncomfortable but it's normal.


To MDs: good thing you can get your teeth fixed! Fingers crossed the cost will be fully covered by insurance!

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Zami & others (please dont ask who, we just woke up and coffee has not reached our brain yet xD )

feeling rather morose this morning, not sure why.

Zami and others - Thanks for that reply to the attraction label question. I didn't know there were so many possibilities. As for me, I think I'll just call myself Marcella.

MDs - I hope your procedure(s) go well and the cost (or lack thereof) is even better!

LittleDaria - I don't understand that. How could it not be sexual if it feels just like the same thing we experience in an adult or teen? But, there really is no more need to discuss this because ...

... the crisis with Jadden is over. He finally grew up. There are still residual problems, but I feel too tired to talk about anything that requires another trigger warning. Besides ... (See below.)

In other news, we've found it is really, really important to not divulge sensitive information about ourselves on here. That post about Jadden and the fear of what people might think about us made us feel more anxious than the actual problem. We felt so fatigued from the stress that we feared we'd collapse before we finished making dinner.

I don't want to finish on a bad note ... but I can't sing very well anyway. (That was a joke.)

- Marcella

Marcella@Truly_happy wrote:In other news, we've found it is really, really important to not divulge sensitive information about ourselves on here. That post about Jadden and the fear of what people might think about us made us feel more anxious than the actual problem.

If it can be reassuring for you, any good psychologist/psychiatrist will be able to tell the difference between a child alter in an adult body, and a real child in a child body. So, it's perfectly normal for a child alter in an adult body, to have reactions, thoughts... that are more adult in some aspects.

Our Little loves true crime shows and horror stories, for example. We would never allow a real-life physical child to watch what we allow Pride to watch.

A child alter is not a physical child. It's normal to have differences compared to a physical child.

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Urielles and The G/Hosts.