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Postby user110867 » Wed Mar 20, 2013 12:31 pm

There's a new alter. Billy. He is ten years old and has red hair and freckles. He likes water guns and nerf and has a southern accent. The only thing I can find about him that dsturbs me s that he mocks the death of somebody that I knew. He laughs about it and says that the reason he's like this is because kids were mean to hm at school. I was somewhat bullied at school so I know how he feels, but it hurts when he mocks the death of somebody that I was somewhat friends with. Is there anyway to approach this? I'm not sure if I should scold or talk it out because he rejects both. He seems to be impulsed to do it.
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Re: Billy

Postby brokenheart » Wed Mar 20, 2013 1:39 pm

Was the friend who died one of the people who bullied you? If so, I think Billy might be holding some resentment from that, a whole "haha he got what he deserved" sort of thing if you know what I mean?
How harsh was the bullying? With our host (though she remembers almost none of when she was bullied) it seems like she's forgotten how much it really affected her, and her memories of it don't have any emotions attached, which is why she's forgotten what it felt like. Maybe Billy might hold some memories, like our Ivory? Just a thought, really. :oops:
Don't scold him for what he thought of your friends death. If he was more affected than you were by all of this, he probably still harbors some bad feelings or experiences that you no longer remember.
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Re: Billy

Postby lifelongthing » Wed Mar 20, 2013 1:42 pm

I would actually recommend not trying to stop this behavior as of yet. No one is perfect and while this may be upsetting to you, asking him to change his way of being very shortly after meeting him may make him resent you in the long term. Unless you are sure he won't take it the wrong way or be offended, I wouldn't try to do anything except tell him that this is upsetting to you and ask that he may not voice that particular opinion to you.

If this is sincerely very troubling to you, you might have to talk to him already now, of course.

Thinking of you all :) Hope you work this out :)
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Re: Billy

Postby user110867 » Wed Mar 20, 2013 1:44 pm

The friend never bullied me. They weren't even in my age group. The bullying wasn't that severe in my opinion, but I was always pressured into giving my stuff away and I would get laughed at and all that.
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Re: Billy

Postby brokenheart » Wed Mar 20, 2013 1:50 pm

"In your opinion"
You might have learned to resist feeling anything toward the people who bullied you, but affected you more on a physcological level? Faith doesn't think it was "that bad" now, but when she was little it really injured her pride and sense of self-esteem. She has self image and self esteem problems even now, and she thinks it didn't affect her that much, which in most of our opinions isn't true.
*don't mean to start an argument or anything*
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