♪I have a problem♪ Somebody, Anybody, Talk to me. Help!

**Trigger warning**
I think Jude is being utterly Violated by Bleiu's Alter, Confection... Apparently Jude's been molested by my mother and a dude he liked, so that's why he's shy... And now Confection threatened Bluie to get Jude naked...
**End Trigger**

It does get really frustrating. though. I don't like to be around my Aunt as much as I used to, because I don't know... What's she thinking about me?

Oh my, this could easily turn into a cluster-f*#k if we're not careful.

I would politely let both Confection and Bleiu know that this behaviour is not appreciated, that you do not want things to go too far beyond friendship, that you are not ok with this, and that you would appreciate it if such behaviour was stopped.

I would let both Confection and Bleiu know that it would probably be best for you two to stay friends for the most part. I would let them know that some flirting is ok, but only if Jude is comfortable with it.

As for Jude, know that you do not ever have to do anything you don't want to, don't like, aren't comfortable with, and is not appealing to you. Even if you feel pressured to, you are under no obligation to do anything for anyone else that you don't like in any way.



I can understand about the aunt, and I'm sorry that things are like this for you.
Our situations aren't similar, but Cassandra also wonders what her grandma's thinking about us now that she knows (we recently told her last year).
*Possibly Triggering*
Take this with a grain of salt, but your aunt could be thinking something along the lines of "She needs help, to get rid of the bad spirits. I wish I could help her. I hope she finds a way to get rid of the bad spirits". Which, in it's own way, is like a wish for you to heal, because if you chose to heal via integration (you can heal and stay multiple), to your aunt, that would "get rid of the bad spirits" because you'd be integrated into one, and in reality, it would be healing for you.

(I apologize if any of this was out of line to say, and if it was, please let me know, and I hope that you can forgive me, forget I said anything, and we can both move on).
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~The Hawk

'S AlL GoOd. BlEiU DOeSn'T PuSh AnYThInG. We ReAlLy JuSt TaLk. I'M AlL Up AnD CoMfOrTaBlE WiTh BlEiU. He DoEsN'T ReAlLy FlIrT OuTrIgHt. MoStLy He JuSt TeLlS Me I'M SwEeT AnD StUfF LiKe ThAt.
AlSo. I DoN'T ReAlLy WaNt To Be InTeGrAtEd.

It would be wiser for every one if we all stay separate for the time being. Sieya needs to work out most of every ones problems before it would succeed anyway. There are also advantages to it, such as, we all have out own skills to contribute.
-Ace

Yeah... I guess I've had the issue for pretty much ever and it seems to have served me well in surviving. I figure once it's figured out, it will be just as effective as it was before, but without the bugs in the system.

Okay...Weird... "Bugs in the system"?... I need to sleep, cus that's just not a thing I would say. Jude is having flashbacks that he's trying to hide, but it's tiring because I can feel it. I can't see the memories, but I can feel the effects... Also. I know that's what she's probably thinking, but it doesn't make it sting any less.

That's why I said "if you chose to integrate". It's completely a choice, and we also wish to heal and stay multiple. (Ace- integration wouldn't happen without those things happening first anyway. Integration itself is a process that consists of trauma processing, accepting every alter, stability being reached for the most part, understanding very alter, etc. But I can agree that staying multiple is a good choice as well).


That's pretty much how it would work out. Healing and staying multiple pretty much means you work through your trauma, you heal from it, you work to reduce issues such as PTSD, anxiety, depression, etc., memories get worked through and processed, and in the end, you are a fully-functional, fully-healed, smooth-running system/team. (This is our goal as well).


I'm sorry that flashbacks are happening right now. I hope you are able to calm yourself with music or something a bit before trying to sleep (and sleep would definitely be a good thing).


~The Hawk

I believe I used the wrong term. We have had two or more temporarily integrate, without Healing. The new combined entity inherited all the problems. The un-dealt with problems went back to the original owner at the split. The intergrations were for specific purposes more than once, but once or twice they were not, and the same thing happened at the split in those cases as well. I apologize for the misunderstanding.
-Ace

No, you used the right term. Integration does not always happen through the process in which it's ideal for it to. Sometimes integration happens forcefully, or out of a need, or sometimes depending on the person's system it can happen during a specific circumstance or environment, but that type of integration usually happens one alter at a time, or it doesn't "stick". Full integration of all alters that "stays" requires healing processes and such.

~The Hawk

Ah. I see. Thank you for clearing that up.
-Ace

BrO. *SiGh* AhJhTrKmHiJ............

*Pets Jude's fluffy head* It'll be okay Jude.

ThE GuY'S JuSt GoNnA F*Ck HiM OvEr AgAiN. GoNnA BrEaK HiS HeArT.

I know, but he won't listen to any of us. I wish he would, but he loves the guy. He's obsessed, and obsession never listens to reason.

*SiGh* BlEiU'S JuSt HiS FaLlBaCk WhEn $#%^ DoEsN'T WoRk OuT WiTh HiS LaTeSt ToY.

Yeah. It irks me too. *Also sighs*