Other poss. diagnosis | Hard weekend (trig. warn.: intimacy)

Good evening to everyone,

This post is about two things which are loosely related. The first one is about a possible other "particularity" (if I don't feel bad, it's not illness right ?) of me, the host. We have a friend currently studying to become a nurse. He is currently doing psychology and psychiatry classes, and he told me recently that he used me (anonymously) as an example of schizoid personality in one of his homeworks. There is a truth in the fact that I do not seek nor need many interpersonnal relationships; he's my best friend, and we see each other 4 to 5 times a year, on average. I have other "closer" friends, but they are geographically unaccessible, therefore, I tend to keep less contact. It's an effort for me to start a friendship and maintain it. I have rather poor social skills. But I don't feel bad about often being (nearly, DID makes it that harder) alone. On the other hand, Ralph is pretty nice with people. Sometimes it "leaks through" and my day becomes less tiring, but most of the time, I'm "computing" my relationships, which is ... exhausting, to say the least.

How common is that combination of DID and SPD ?

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Now, for the more heavy part, last time I went to see my friend, he got invited to some of his friends, and I decided to tag along. What I did not know is that a guy I know was going to be there, and there had been some relationship (as in, more than friends turned awry before official couple status) issues in our common past. That guy changed a lot since the last time I met him. After a while, he started getting rather intimate with me, to which we reacted ... strangely. I was fighting my best to stop this, Lukas as well, but we heavily dissociated, and Raphaël was just letting himself being played with, enjoying it. Now, I am gay (NOT EVERYONE IS, YOU IDIOT), and the guy still exerts some attraction power on the body, but I am psychologically not so interested in intimacy (THANK WHATEVER, OR IT'D BE WORSE, MORON), I find it gross, and I have a lot more important problems to solve before that. Being so heavily dissociated, I was not even able to tell my friend and/or the guy to make that stop. Thankfully, my friend, somehow aware of my problems (good observation, I guess), decided that we should go back to his home, although not before (more heavy stuff there) the guy had his hand in my pants and under my underwear, touching my skin directly; I hate physical contact (thank god everyone but my friend was drunk)(end of more heavy part). I then became a little bit less dissociated, but someone's lust (Raphaël's, most probably) was leaking through and it felt awkward. Sinec then, Raphaël has tried to contact the guy under the guise of repairing his MacBook Pro, which I had proposed before the guy started touching me in unexpected/disgustingly inappropriate, and I'm being POLITE here/intriguing/frightening/really hot ways. Thank god, he has not answered yet, but I don't feel like I am in control of much of anything right now.

Any ideas on how to defuse the tension ? I've been pretty unstable since then, and thank god the weather made us miss school twice in a row, or otherwise I don't know what would have happened. But today, I "wasn't fully there" for nearly the entire day. I had one hour of clear thoughts in the morning, and after no nothing ... My studies are becoming a wreck.

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Meh. Schizoid personality disorder is another one of those common misdiagnoses of DID. Ask this impertinent friend to explain how he went about doing the differential diagnosis. That is, how did he rule out schizophrenia and DDNOS type 1 and DID?

I'm not sure how to respond to the other issue. What do you want to happen with this person?

Meh. Schizoid personality disorder is another one of those common misdiagnoses of DID. Ask this impertinent friend to explain how he went about doing the differential diagnosis. That is, how did he rule out schizophrenia and DDNOS type 1 and DID?

Agreeing with Una+ here. Could easily be a misdiagnosis and either way I doubt it's his diagnosis to make. I think it's definitely possible to be both though, and you might be - we wouldn't know. I wouldn't worry much about it without having a proper diagnosis though.

I'm sorry that happened with the man.

Best of luck.

DID is commonly mistaken for and misdiagnosed as schizophrenia, schizoid personality disorder, psychosis, borderline personality disorder, and even bipolar disorder. Only a qualified professional who's aware of dissociative disorder symptoms/criteria (and one who at least believes DID exists), is able to make that call of giving a proper diagnosis. But as Lifelongthing said, I wouldn't worry about a specific diagnosis, at least not too much. Diagnoses can take time to get, and although they can help you to know for sure what's going on and help with what type of therapy you seek out, they're not important in comparison to what you experience, feel, think, know, etc., which can still be helped, treated, and worked on.

I wouldn't trust this "diagnosis" if I were you, and I'd seek out a real diagnosis from a professional, one familiar with dissociative disorders (preferably familiar with DID as well), as soon as possible.


I am very sorry to hear that this happened with the man, though.
Is there any way you can possibly write a note or something to Raphael, explaining what YOU would like to happen or not happen, what YOU are comfortable and uncomfortable with, and asking him to keep a "low profile" with interactions of that nature until you are more stable and are in a better place to handle things like this, or something like that?


Best of luck with everything.


-Cassandra