Host resigning Trigger warning

Are host has resigned and this feels odd last time are host tried to quit she left for a week but this feels different and she even handed a letter of resignation to are admin so i'm really scared if this is permanent

she is the only alter that knows how to keep us all in line she deals with work socialization. she has the most memories when we socialize with family and friends. no one has stepped up to the plate
with anyone how did you deal with your host leaving. if any of have had that happen?
I'm just really worried about charlie she is what keeps him from flipping out.

we know her reasons she had to list them on the letter but we are generally scared

Hey, why is s/he resigning? That could be scary :/ is there a core anywhere in there or a protector who can take over for a while?

stress, worry, work, feeling rejected a lot, being around her ex, inability to keep in control, family and acceptance of DID. just to much was on her plate and she couldn't deal with the pressure of being host things have gotten to complicated for her and she can't manage it at all

Hey spankyspee, I'm sorry to hear you're having a tough time right now. *safe hug if wanted* I want to let you know you're not alone in this though. Our system right now is currently undergoing a host change as well. Everyone's fairly nervous and uncertain about it. Our main reason is that the current host, Cassandra, was mainly "equipped" to handle being aware of 4-5 alters, and now we've grown to being 18, and it's becoming quite difficult for her to adjust to the changes. We started a thread about it, to help write about things and express stuff. If you'd like to, you can read it and see if it helps just knowing/reading about someone else who's going through something similar. (Sorry if I'm not that helpful, I'm rather fuzzy right now).
Host Change & other things: http://www.psychforums.com/dissociative-identity/topic102673.html

I know a huge change like this can be scary, but try to look for the positives that might be accomplished with the change. This might be helpful in reducing the amount of stress the current host experiences, and they can maybe help on the inside instead. It might help the system to "run" smoother with the reduction in stress on the current host as well. Host changes aren't anything "bad", really. They can be scary, yes, because it's change and you aren't always sure of how it'll work out, but they're not "bad" things to happen. Maybe try to have everyone get together and make a list of all the possible positives that can come of this change? That might help you all to feel better about it.


~The Hawk

Yeah we have decided that are protector Barry and an adult little Charlie to take for the moment til we decided if there can be another host or try to convince are old host to come back but shes in refusal mood but it's cool we don't want to push her.

someone was very kind to us and gave us a good idea we thank them for the idea - love chaz

We had a host change not too long ago as well. What we did was add co-hosts, instead of just having one host. So far it's worked very well. I hope you figure this all out

We went through something like this a few days ago as well. I think that is the reason why we were so fuzzy. Now, I am the main host (i don't know if it makes any sense for you, but that's how it works for us, now) and some other co-hosts, as lifelongthing said, that take care of only some parts of the whole system.

It was scary for some of us, since we had to unite the separate systems into one, (which made everything really noisy in here ) but we worked it out eventually, and everyone is more relaxed.

We found a role for nearly everyone now.