I'm currently doubting my whole disassociative thing. I feel as if it's gotten out of hand and right now I just want it to go away.
So with that disclaimer out of the way, speaking as if I didn't think that right now:
The non-binary is what I use, but it doesn't feel quite right, either. It's more like both male and female at the same time. Non-binary/gender fluid feels almost as if they're not that. But that's what I use for lack of a better term. Androgynous, I stay away from entirely as that seems almost a negative, neither male nor female. And I'm both. I'm both, I feel it inside- we feel it inside. Since Samantha made her appearance, it's been awfully hard to stick to the above statement and put that genie back in the bottle. It just feels right, sometimes.
By way of update, shortly before my renewed self-denial that this could be, we added a new alter- a 13 or 14 year old boy who claims to be twin to our previous teen alt (female). Gender-wise that brings the total to three male including 'me' the host/body, three female. Except for me, however, the girls definitely are stronger and more developed. Indeed one male doesn't even have a name and doesn't speak, save in gibberish. I don't know.