dealing with protector part?

Hi,

I have been been diagnosed with DD NOS I have awareness except that sometimes I don't know I have shifted and am operating from a different part. I alway resist when pointed out a shift from an external source. I have been trying to work with the protector part. I have not contacted him directly s in a meeting room or conference. I simply am trying to be aware of it impact and consequences on others and my life. When I loose trust (triggered) I can easily move into the part and act as if the person I am close with is a stranger and I forget all the intimacy we developed for that period of time.

I am wondering if anyone who is working on integration have experienced something similar and the best way to gain cooperation. And to know that it is possible. For in my experience the protector is incredibly set in its decision to trust or not and not willing to open and let in the reality that this may be a safe experience. He wants to believe that he is a victim and is being wronged and the other is unsafe. (projection of a past reality lived in childhood)

In terms of therapy how is the process of conncting and integrating the protector?
ANd what does he really need from me?

im sorry but I don't think your going to like this answer.


before you even make integration a possibility there has to be COMPLETE cooperation, or it wont work. sometimes it dosnt even work after that. long story short, forced integration will never work and if hee wants to stay he will.

my suggestion? try getting along it works wonders. as part of a system of 35+ I can tell you that when one of us don't get along, nothing gets done. I personally don't like integration, I think everyone of them has as much right to be here as I do, because of what they have been through.
talk with this protector, get to know him/her and go from there.

~jackilyn

Thanks it is encouraging to remember to get along.