Screwed up again and i am starting to question myself.

Well, I don't know if i said this is in my previous post but i am a college student. I would consider myself a good to decent student who has such a horrible time in math that it has been the cause for a lot of frustration in my life, In my first semester of college i failed lowest level math class, that incident motivated to me work a lot harder and it paid off when i passed it the next semester and went on to the next level straight into the summer, the only problem is that summer classes are much faster paced then regular classes so i had to withdraw from it. i decided to put off until the fall, by the time fall came around, i started making math my priority, i began going to tutoring regularly, i did everything i could to prepare myself, but i was still struggling and I was just recently told by my math teacher that based on my scores for the 2 recent tests that i will not pass the class. She my only options are to drop the course or stay in it and fail, this has utterly crushed me as i worked so hard to get to this point and i wanted to pass it so badly and to have this come to me and to delay my college career even further has just sent me into an all the time crying state, good news is i have finally found a job. But i feel like my dreams right now have all been crushed and all my effort has been wasted at this point and i feel utterly lost.

Sierraman wrote:She my only options are to drop the course or stay in it and fail, this has utterly crushed me as i worked so hard to get to this point and i wanted to pass it so badly and to have this come to me and to delay my college career even further has just sent me into an all the time crying state, good news is i have finally found a job. But i feel like my dreams right now have all been crushed and all my effort has been wasted at this point and i feel utterly lost.

I can understand why you feel that way, but all your effort hasn't been wasted. you passed the last math course, and all the effort you put in that class and this class has still helped you improve. additionally, intelligence isn't a fixed thing. yes some people may be born better at math, but it just means the other people need to work harder to get to that same level. so just because you failed it this time, doesn't mean you will keep failing. it just means you need to try again.

also i failed 4 semesters of college in a row, and this semester will be the first i have passed all my classes in college. it's not a bad thing that you will be delayed a little bit, you will graduate college and get into a career soon enough (time sometimes goes by too fast). furthermore while a career is important, it's not all what life is about. maybe try focusing on doing some hobbies and try not to let your worries get the best of you (i know easier said than done)

also interesting study they came across where in one group they had asian women, another group american women. the psychologist administered math tests to each group, and before the test they told the asian women to focus on the stereotype of asians being smart at math. for the american women group, they told them to focus on the stereotype that women aren't good at math.

the asian women group did remarkably better, even when counted for controls. lesson being expectations can shape results. best of luck!