Quick Question

This has been on my mind for a long time and I decided I would throw it by this community - you might have more of an answer than I do.

Simply put, I have been depressed, very severely and less so at times, constantly over the last 4 years. It became a norm, and I was even suicidal at times, sometimes for weeks or going so far as to plan an ending. I was also constantly yearning for some sort of relationship, and would put myself into unhealthy relationships in an attempt to fulfill this need.

I am now in what I would gladly say is a much healthier relationship, for about seven months now. And ever since I got into this relationship, I have been much, MUCH happier. Which is where my question comes in.

Do you think that I might not have chronic depression so much as some sort of codependent disorder? That I /need/ a relationship to be happy with my life? I try to be independent, but I'll admit I am a very dependent person and need help almost always when upset... but this might have come about by years of constant, worthless feelings, too, couldn't it?

I'm not sure. And it is bothering me. >< Any ideas?

You sound just like me. . . well, except for the part where you found a great relationship. I feel so happy for you, though! I am really shy and I have been rejected a few times when I did have the courage to ask someone out. >.<

But you might want to watch how much you really do depend on this person. It is possible that you have a dependent personality disorder, but if you do not have any significantly debilitating problems b/c of it (i.e. you become severely unhappy when your significant other is away for a few days, your significant other becomes burdened by your needs, etc.) then I do not think you should worry. Good, loving communication with your significant other may serve to help lessen your worries. Maybe you should talk to your s/o about if he ever feels you are too dependent on him/her. If he/she gives you negative criticism, try to take it constructively and don't lose your temper or anything like that. But if it is a healthy relationship, I am sure he/she will try to be as helpful as possible.

Just try to maintain your happiness! Many people experience great joy in having a significant other. It is completely normal, in my opinion. If it is a healthy, fulfilling relationship, then cherish it.

The fact that you say you try to be independent is a good sign, too.

Thank you for the reply. : )

It makes me feel a bit better about it to think that as long as I'm not a burden or anything like that it is okay. I suppose just because you 'have' something doesn't necessarily mean you have to be debilitated by it. ^^