Feeling quite hopeless

Hello, I'm getting older here and feeling quite hopeless.

I'm not looking for pity, I'm just hoping for an answer to this.

I don't have any motivation to do anything. I just want to sit around all day. I wish I had goals and dreams like other people, but I don't.

I'm a single mother of 3, I have 2 types of seizures that aren't treatable, I can't drive a car.
I am dependent on other people to get from place to place. Finding work I can do with my seizures is near impossible, and I have been denied SSDI twice. I'm trying a 3rd time now. I'm living with family, my ex-husband died homeless and left us nothing.

When I think of all these problems, it seems pointless to dream or set a goal or anything. Why? Because I can't drive, get a normal job, or live on my own.

I don't want to be like this, I'm embarrassed to be in the situation I'm in, and I am ashamed. I don't want to meet people because I am afraid they will ask what I do for living, and I don't like lie, so I just don't talk to people.

My mind, on the other, is still in pretty (if not really forgetful) condition, and I know I'm not totally hopeless, I just don't know where to turn to fix this problem.

Thank you in advance for your replies.

Try not to feel like things are hopeless. You are depressed at the moment & its distorting your perception of your situation. You say that you mind is still in good condition, so that means that you can do anything you set your mind to. Yes - there may be some things that are denied to you because of your condition, like driving, but driving isn't everything in this world! I don't drive either because of a visual impairment. So I'm reliant on other people as well. Also - I don't have a job due to not having a car, also because of anxiety. BUT - I try not to get hopeless about my situation. I work with what I have.

Perhaps you can take up a new skill, or hobby, or go back to school if that option is available to you? It's good to be focusing on something that you can use & perform at. Do you have interests that you can build on?

EarlGreyDregs wrote:Try not to feel like things are hopeless. You are depressed at the moment & its distorting your perception of your situation. You say that you mind is still in good condition, so that means that you can do anything you set your mind to. Yes - there may be some things that are denied to you because of your condition, like driving, but driving isn't everything in this world! I don't drive either because of a visual impairment. So I'm reliant on other people as well. Also - I don't have a job due to not having a car, also because of anxiety. BUT - I try not to get hopeless about my situation. I work with what I have.

Perhaps you can take up a new skill, or hobby, or go back to school if that option is available to you? It's good to be focusing on something that you can use & perform at. Do you have interests that you can build on?

Thank you, that was encouraging

I do have some interests I can build on. It'll just take some time to cultivate them, I think I need to be more patient. I'm extremely interested in anthropology and history and culture....I might be able to make a career out of one of those interests.

There's no need to feel embarassed or ashamed of being ill. You can't help being ill or being dependant on people.

If people ask about your job just say your health doesn't allow you to work at the moment. You can still talk about your hobbies and interests or your hopes and dreams for the future. These are what make you who you are, a job is just what you do.

You have children, so bringing them up as well-rounded, educated, healthy individuals is a reason to live, even if you don't actually enjoy living.

You could also, if your health allows, look at whether there is anything you can do to make the lives of the people you live with any easier, to help them in some way. This would even out the balance of power and lessen your feelings of being dependent on them. X