Help me..i love her but i cant help her....

well, my friend of mine which i love her so much but we does not couple. However since last week her emotions and mood was terrible.

i try talk to her whats her problems she just told me she was mad on everything. she said when she saw something that hurt her eye, she was like wanted to scold them or heat them.

not only that, when she say an environments which is not her feel, she willnot like last time to try to fit in but she will just piss off and run away...

well, i scared and i really afraid that she will do anything nonsense...so please help me...

how can i advice her how can i comfort her as before these happens she comfort bout my colourblind a lot...HELP PLEASE...

Hi,

Do not constantly ask her if she is feeling okay or if she is feeling bad. You must simply bring her to places that she will enjoy: cinema; shopping mall; concerts; etc. Do not try to cure her depression yourself. Just be her friend.

Kevin.

Like Chucky said I think the best thing you can do is to just be a good friend. Be supportive, it takes a strong friendship to survive the winds of mental illness but if you close enough you can do it. Let her know that you are there if she wants to talk and will still be there if she doesn't and that you worry about her because you care. Chances are that she's just as worried as you are and scared. Having someone to talk to can really be a lifeline.

Sometimes this isn't enough though and the person really needs help. It can be as simple as asking if she'd like help or attending a support group together. The depression and bipolar suport allience offers support groups almost anywhere and may be an excent place for guys to try out their website is www.dbsallience.com. If she isn't willing to go by herself maybe you could make a date to go together and both get checked-anything to get her the help she needs.

Don't be judemental and encourage her to stay far away from alcohol as this can make depression a thousand times worse and many people with depression are particularly suseptable to addiction. Also understand that at times she may say things she doesn't really mean because of her depression. Don't let this drive you off-many people with depression cut off all major sources of support just when they are in most need.

This site has a really cool animation which can help you with the right things to say- http://www.whatadifference.samhsa.gov/

~Jen