Feeling do despaired, giving up!

I have been struggling with mental illness for much of my life, but it has affected me severely over the last two months. I think I suffer from OCD and depression. I have zero motivation to do anything, even things outside of school that were once joyous to me. But it is most debilitating in school: I have been skipping classes for the third week, rushing through homework, and earning mediocre grades. In addition, I have lost friends, and my family does not seem to understand what I am going through.

I have been seeking treatment with a psychiatrist; I will alias her name as M.C. However, as I kept coming to more appointments, I realized that there is no magic, and that the mental health system is broken. First, she was a resident, which is insulting because I have to juggle through multiple doctors. Second, she seemed to only listen and not provide solutions. Third, when she did provide solutions, she only gave medications or took the easy route and not deal with the pith of the problem. Fourth, she seemed to misdiagnose me and try to fit in as many of the "depression" symptoms into the OCD narrative. And fifth, and most importantly, she doesn't seem to care much about me. Empathy and care are so important. I am not struggling at my appointment; I struggle when I am all alone by myself. Dr. M.C. would just go home to her family while I am left spiritually dead. When I slept through one of my appointment times, she didn't ask how things were going, even when she knew I was going through hell. I feel like things are getting worse by the moment. I hope you understand me in the least.

I had a therapist who was only in it for the paycheck. If I were you, I'd get a new shrink.

chrisjohn wrote:I have been seeking treatment with a psychiatrist; I will alias her name as M.C. However, as I kept coming to more appointments, I realized that there is no magic, and that the mental health system is broken. First, she was a resident, which is insulting because I have to juggle through multiple doctors. Second, she seemed to only listen and not provide solutions. Third, when she did provide solutions, she only gave medications or took the easy route and not deal with the pith of the problem. Fourth, she seemed to misdiagnose me and try to fit in as many of the "depression" symptoms into the OCD narrative. And fifth, and most importantly, she doesn't seem to care much about me. Empathy and care are so important. I am not struggling at my appointment; I struggle when I am all alone by myself. Dr. M.C. would just go home to her family while I am left spiritually dead. When I slept through one of my appointment times, she didn't ask how things were going, even when she knew I was going through hell. I feel like things are getting worse by the moment. I hope you understand me in the least.

1. Therapists are not God, they don't magically see solutions. You have to find the solution yourself because only you have full access to your own internals. You have to find the um, pith of your problem yourself. Therapists are to only listen and help guide you in the process but they are not allowed to try and push solutions on you. And it's only good this way, there is a reason for this protocol/rule. So yeah whenever a therapist tried to push a solution or course of action on me I'd get real pissed off. It's really unprofessional behaviour. Anyone can try and push solutions based on an incomplete appraisal of the issue, that's not why I go to therapy.
2. If you don't feel the empathetic connection, find another therapist. But they also will not be able to give you a solution magically.
3. It won't solve anything if you try to blame your loneliness on your therapist.