Mum does not understand my depression and doesnt seem to car

My mum doesnt seem to care that Im depressed or doesnt seem to want to help!!! I tried to tell her that Im depressed and that I was going to get help but all ahe said was "you're not depressed ! You're lazy and dont do anything to help yourself".... Im 24 and living with my mum for the time being! She says "its all in your head and you can fix it" like maybe some of it is but not all of it! She said that I shouldnt go on anti depressants! That those are useless and wont help at all.. I have recently been thinking thoughts I should not be having and it scares me to death! I have no one to talk to about it. My sister is busy with new baby and mum doesnt care.... I have had depression for years and have tried getting the help I need a few years ago but I took what mum said seriously and stopped going to therapy and taking anti depressants. I feel like most of this is my fault because if I didnt stop going I wouldnt be where I am right now..What do I do? I want to go to a mental health clinic to get help but everytime I mention it she just scoffs at it and says "dont label yourself".... I didnt label myself my doctor diagnosed me!

Hi Klynn,

Sorry you are dealing with this. I have been on and off antidepressants for years. For me I can say that they do help. Like you i should stay on them, but it can be complicated. You are 24 (as am I) and know what is going on with yourself. You do not need your parent's approval or permission to seek help. In fact I wouldn't even talk to them about it any longer given that you already know how they are going to react. My parents aren't exactly great about supporting me either, but probably not as bad as yours. Idk where you are, but if in the US you should make an appointment with your GP Dr. They may try to place you on antidepressants themselves or refer you to a psych. Please reach out and get yourself help IRL. Only you (not your parents) know what you are experiencing.

Take care,
-S

Number one. Forgive yourself for stopping therapy and move on and start therapy again.

Number two. Your mom may never understand but that doesn't mean it isn't real.

Number three. You are not lazy you are ill.

Number four: ((((( CAN I GIVE YOU A HUG?? )))

My mom is the same. I once bought three different books on depression, went through them all and highlighted everything that applied to me because she said she didn't understand.

She still questions why I don't return her calls fast enough. Leaves me annoying messages like I'm a bad person for not wanting to talk to her all the time. I've asked her if she's read the books I gave her. She claims she has. I ask "then why don't you understand that I can't always deal with you".

Some people will never get it but that doesn't give your mom the right to speak to you the way she does.

I guess I'm lucky in that I don't live in my mom's house because I often refuse to talk to her, and you don't really have that option.

I agree with Shattered Mind that you don't need your mom's permission to seek therapy and should just do so again if you have the ability and means.

Feel free to direct message me.

49 y/o female

My family is dealing with a similar situation at the moment...older sister (24, like u) moved back in and while my parents are trying to be supportive it seems like they don't really understand what she is going through and fall short sometimes. My mom especially keeps telling her to just snap out of it and start going to work, seeing friends again but I guess it doesn't work like that... it is hard for the family too and while it's not your fault and you need to think of yourself and your mental wellbeing first there is that aspect of it. Sorry that you are going through this!