depression and marriage

Hello
I am new to this forum, I need some help with my marriage and depression. I have been diagnosed with major depression and dysmorphic pms. My husband is undiagnosed Asperger's. Our marriage has been awful for years now. No intimacy for years, we don't talk or do things together. We have a three yr old boy diagnosed Asperger's. With all of us having our own huge problems I feel we are just going through the everyday motions to just get through another day. I have been getting counseling, I am medicated, and see a psychiatrist. My son is getting all sorts of help. He is very bright and high functioning. But my husband is getting no help and is very set in his ways. He is a genius but ridged in thinking and emotionless. My husband thinks we are fine and everything is just how it should be. I have told him I am unhappy and that we need to get help to make our marriage work. He refuses and says our problem is my mental illness. He blames all my emotions and opinions on my illness. He doesn't take anything I say seriously. He says to me that it will pass and then we can just be normal again. I get emotional to say the least 5days before my cycle starts and everything I feel is times 100. So I tend to go over board during this time and tell him the same things every month. Like I want out, and I don't want him anymore and I am unhappy and feel alone. But I do say these things other times. I am just more passionate during the 5 days. He just sits and stares at me or his computer and doesn't say a word the whole time. Nothing!!! I eventually stop talking get mad and we don't speak for a long time and then it just goes back to normal. I am scared to leave, I don't make as much money as him, he has a great job. Benefits and high pay, he owns our home. Without him I would be just above poverty level, and he threatens to use my mental illness to take our son from me. I need help to figure this out. Any advice as to how to get help for us?

livestr8 - what you describe is very difficult and I wish you would have someone to talk with who can understand what you are going through.

I believe you should start with consulting with a social worker and reaching out to a foundation that helps women find themselves in the vice of a destructive marriage.

In the meantime, venting in this forum is great.

I also recommend, if you currently don't meet with one, to meet with a psychologist. In person is better *mod edit*

You can also make online appointments and have video councilling on various paid sites at different price points (I think I once saw one for 25$ an hour or something, really affordable) - *mod edit*

Good luck and keep writing!