I need help, badly!

I'm an 18 year old girl, senior in high school and I've been homeschooled (online classes) since freshman year. I lost all my friends from middle school, and haven't made any new ones. My family treats me like $#%^ and i live with my grandparents. The ONLY person i interact with positively is my therapist and my boyfriend. Basically, my problem is I'm freaking lonely and i have absolutely nothing to do and i think that's making my depression worse. Im awake all night, and i sleep until 1pm and then eat like one meal a day because i have no appetite. I literally lay in bed all day and night. I don't get up unless i need to pee or get food. I want to wake up at 8am and stay OUT of bed but my issue is.. i have nothing to do if i get out of bed. I live in NJ so the weather is FREEZING right now and i have literally no friends. I've been told to clean or do laundry, but that lasts a good 30 minutes and then I'm back in bed for the rest of the day watching netflix feeling like crap. I seriously don't have a single thing to do and its making me so depressed and lonely. I never go downstairs in my house either because my grandparents are emotionally abusive so i end up feeling worse. I know i could benefit from medication, but my anxiety keeps me from taking it because I'm too scared of side effects so can somebody please make some recommendations to me other than taking medication? Idk how to cope with this crap anymore.

I think you should try to find some hobbies/interests or try to expand on existing ones, this will fill up your time, give you a sense of enjoyment/achievement and help you meet new people.

I agree with the above, hobbies are a good way to fill time, and you could even meet people online who share the same hobbies, which would be good if you've had a hard time making friends in your current situation.

What does your boyfriend think of your situation? Maybe you can hang out with him more. It may be hard to pursue your interests or find new hobbies when all you want to do is lie in bed.

Maybe what you should be doing is taking steps to try and feel better. Don't rule out medication before you learn more about it.Do some research about them (SSRI's or anti-anxiety) and learn about the effects/side effects. Has your therapist recommended them? There's a medication sub-forum here you might benefit from. Aside from that, you could research depression, chat here on these forums. Is your therapist helping? If not, find out why. Maybe get a new one.

You DO have something to do: try to find a way to get out of the rut your in. Learn more about your depression and how to deal with it. Try to eat better. I'm not in NJ but I'm nearby, and the weather is supposed to get warmer this week. Try to get out and take a walk, especially if it's sunny. Good nutrition and exercise aren't going to make you feel better on their own, but they could give you the energy to keep taking steps to improve your life.

Push yourself to do stuff that will make you feel better. Posting here was a good step. Keep going! The alternative is just carrying on as you have been and that's only going to make you feel worse and keep you from making a change.