by naps » Thu Oct 29, 2015 1:35 am
But blame is such an awful word. It's a dead-end. Instead of blaming yourself, why not look at it (your negative thinking) as something you need to improve, not blame yourself for? Having a tendency to think negatively something that can be improved. I had a roommate years ago who was always talking about positive and negative energy. After a while, I started to see what she was talking about, and I was able to appropriate that into my own way of thinking. I looked at the negativity I was emitting as a tangible thing, like an aura I was throwing around. I didn't want it getting all over my friends, my cats, my apartment. Negativity begets negativity. So whenever I found myself thinking about something negatively, I would just stop thinking about it and try to concentrate on something else. I looked at it as a fire I had to put out.
At least that's what helped me a little. Do you speak to your counselor about your negative thinking? If not, you should. Devote a whole session to it.