Depression & Empathy

My latest episode began about a month ago when I checked myself into a stress center because I had self-diagnosed myself with antisocial personality disorder. I loathed the idea of being a sociopath and knew I needed to talk to trained professionals.

Every trained professional I have spoken with have dismissed the idea that I am a sociopath --- including my current therapist. Everyone has speculated that I am depressed with a lot of anxiety. I am having a hard time believing them. I am in a place where I generally dislike myself and want stay in bed and do nothing all the time.

Does the saying, "You can't help someone else until you help yourself" stand true with depression? I do feel like I've been depressed for a long time (breakup of a relationship/money issues/etc), but i have a hard time believing that depression can be bad enough that I start to question if I feel anything for anyone in my life.