i am fed up of my mom

i am fed up of her emotional blackmail.
she cries, n i feel sorry for her.
then she ends up saying, 'why dont you get married?'
then she cries. she says, 'cant you do this one thing for me?'

she enjoys blackmailing others. making others feel sorry for her.
all she does is soak in pity.

i dont want to get married. the depression prevents me from even stepping out of the room. i have told her repeatedly that i dont want to get married but she continues to annoy me.

n she's old so i feel guilty for making her cry. i dont know how to handle her. why cant she just live her own life?

I am sorry to hear this. I understand you live together with your mom. My mom was using emotional blackmail a lot until I moved out, because then I gained a leverage: when she'd start crying about real or imaginary pain, or trying to coerce me into doing things I didn't want to do, I could put down the phone or just not contact her for a while. Maybe this sounds terrible. But it worked. Once we had no contact for two months. It repaired our relationship. She understood that she can't do certain things anymore if she wants to be in touch with me at all. And now we love each other and accept each other for who we are.

I don't know whether this is a possibility. But moving out could seriously improve your contact with your mom.

Big hugs. Hope it gets better.

i cant move away from home, i cant afford. my job earns enough money just for expenses. the depression is bad. at times i just lie on bed looking at the moving fan.

i'm thinking of taking up some course, do some more studies. maybe that should allow me for a job. not sure. i feel like a baby at times.

last night i had dinner. but then my mom came. i wanted to eat more n she offered but i couldnt stay with her in the same room. i preferred to sleep hungry than be with her.

our relation is so dysfunctional.