I have a phobia about having sex with men?

Sex scares me a lot...like a lot. If anybody touches anywhere on my upper thigh or lower waist I will literally scream or panic...even cry. It makes me uncomfortable to think about shoving something up there.
I have been sexually assaulted when I was a teenager, I am now in my 30's, I have had 1 man in my life and now got rid of him because he was a sex mad man.

From being a teenager I have had depression through this and have been on medication from then too.
I really think from the assault has caused me to have this problem I think now I really do need help.

I am hoping that I am not alone with this problem, really kills me everyday.

I think this might be common for people who have been assaulted, but it's been a loooong time. You might need to talk to a counselor who specializes in that.

I'm very sorry to hear that and although I personally cannot relate exactly, a couple people in my family have been sexually assaulted and I know its something that stays with you... however, I agree with tauran about the counseling with someone who specializes in that. It hasn't affected them as bad as your handling it but everyone is different so there's absolutely nothing wrong with how your handling it, there's not right or wrong way to handle these types of situations in my opinion however it is affecting how your living && your happiness it seems like, so you want to try and get some help to become comfortable and be able to be open with someone you may become close with in the future because intimacy may be something special to them and maybe you can get to the point where your no longer thinking about it negatively... its just shame that things like this happen to people because it can really mess with someone, and affect there life... I really hope you find a way through this and I'm rooting for you!

I am hoping that I am not alone with this problem, really kills me everyday.

Your not alone! Never were... at the end of the day your strong to have endured what you did. this post seriously made my heart drop but it also tells me that your someone who possesses A LOT of strength! there are understanding people out willing to work with you on this, as far as being in a relationship goes.. if its hard for someone to understand or respect how you feel when it comes to that specific act then they weren't the one for you anyways... keep your head up! your extremely special, know that

Wish u the best with this and if you ever want to talk again we can.