i feel pretty low today, this has been playing on my mind for a while and ive gotten to the stage where i need to reach out and see if anyone else feels the same way that I do.
I'm trying to find out if there are any other twins out there who suffer from depression where there twin does not, and if you think your being a twin has played a part in it for you?
I am a non identical twin (the younger twin and also a middle child if that has any bearing on anything?) My twin has always been popular and outgoing and generally had a wonderful stress free life, she is very much the dominant twin and has always been very bossy and snappy with me.
I'm told that when we were little we were very close, but all i can ever remember is conflict and feeling like her shadow. In school she always found social interactions easy but after being pushed down and treated like a lesser being (which ive come to realise is unintentional) by her i was on the opposite end of the social spectrum. awkward, lacking in confidence and clumsy to boot i was bullied fairly badly all through high school, even being pushed down two sets of stairs. i wanted to be able to look to my twin for support and to spend time with her but she avoided me wherever she could.somehow i ended up with a couple of so called friends who also treated me like a pull along toy, only wanting to 'hang out' to laugh at my expense and dropping me like a sack of spuds when they got bored of that.
My twin is I'm sure also the favourite in the family thanks to having better social skills.I sound so whiney but getting this off my chest after so many years feels like such a relief!
she also very frequently 'drops me'now were older. Any time she arranges to meet i get excited about spending a bit of time together (especially this last year as I have been battling cervical cancer and company makes things seem brighter) but she always drops out at the last minute.Always with a lame excuse.
Shes also very lucky, always having a good well paid job and having settled down with the man of her dreams, shes even being given the money to buy her first house by his parents. I'm happy for her that things are working out but it seems such a stark contrast to my existence... Battling depression, anxiety and cancer, out of work thanks to illness and still to this day totally socially awkward. I have a wonderful boyfriend who sees how down i get about being constantly let down by her and tries to comfort me, and who's supporting me at the moment. But I hate that we have to work so hard to get by (he works every hour he can as well as doing a degree) where as life hands her everything on a plate.
I know i shouldn't compare myself to her but its hard not to as a twin...