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does anyone lay around ALL DAY?

Postby noreally_imfine » Wed Oct 30, 2013 10:15 pm

Besides work, i am laying down. I barely move around.

Im 25 and my mom who is 61 has way more energy.

My energy and motivation is completely drained. People say oh get up go for a walk outside. 1) its cold out. 2) I'm lucky if i get up out of bed.

I don't like being THIS far behind where its hard to get up out of bed or where i get tired so easily. how do you get out of this?
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Re: does anyone lay around ALL DAY?

Postby WantToEscapeIt » Wed Oct 30, 2013 10:54 pm

Yes. I'm a full time college student who can hardly drag myself out of bed to go to classes. It's effecting my grades. But literally the sleeping world is so much better than the world I live in.
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Re: does anyone lay around ALL DAY?

Postby weepingwillow » Wed Oct 30, 2013 11:21 pm

Yep!

It can be really hard to motivate yourself when you're depressed and have no energy. I do try to get even a little walk everyday with some music - I don't always manage it but when I do I feel like I've at least tried to do something.
I've heard that natural daylight can sometimes help with lifting your mood.

Are you taking any meds? If you're really struggling they can sometimes help to give you a bit of a lift and you can get a bit more motivated.

Do you have any hobbies/interests that you used to enjoy?

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Re: does anyone lay around ALL DAY?

Postby Samantha_E » Wed Oct 30, 2013 11:34 pm

Yes! I love bed, and if I am not in bed, I am sitting on a recliner sofa on my laptop - like now! I sleep way more than people think is normal.

Oh yes, 'go for a walk', 'get some exercise'. Quite annoying as it seems so troublesome. Really, it is so annoying just to have to go to the bathroom!

As for getting out of it... I find that if I try to get into doing lots too soon, I just want to spend MORE time in bed because it was too much. So I would suggest starting small.

If you want to get used to just being up and about, people say exercise gives you more energy and makes you less tired, which I think it does (if you take it easy). But again, start small! Instead of overwhelming and inconveniencing yourself with walking outside, perhaps something such as walking around your living room once per day. It sounds silly, but even realising you can motivate yourself to do THAT much is good. Even when you do not want to get up, walking around the living room is simple and takes a matter of seconds. Even if you feel you could do more, that might make it feel like more of a chore the next day, so limit it. Then, over time, as looong a time as you want, increase it. Something is better than nothing!

This is just an example. The idea is just starting very small and doing it every day.

I hope that helps.
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Re: does anyone lay around ALL DAY?

Postby noreally_imfine » Wed Oct 30, 2013 11:47 pm

weepingwillow wrote:Yep!

It can be really hard to motivate yourself when you're depressed and have no energy. I do try to get even a little walk everyday with some music - I don't always manage it but when I do I feel like I've at least tried to do something.
I've heard that natural daylight can sometimes help with lifting your mood.

Are you taking any meds? If you're really struggling they can sometimes help to give you a bit of a lift and you can get a bit more motivated.

Do you have any hobbies/interests that you used to enjoy?

((Big Hugs))

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Good for you for going walking. Lately, Im having a lot of trouble getting OUT of the house. Maybe because its getting cold too?

Just started talking half a pill of Lexapro (5 mg) on Monday night. I hope it doesn't make me gain weight...

Hobbies/interest that i USED to enjoy. lol. love how you wrote USED to --its so true! I used to enjoy exercising but i have developed neck and shoulder pain/stiffness for 2 yrs now and it has brought me into this great depression. all i can do for exercise is walk. trying out a new treatment plan on fri hope to God it works. i used to enjoy reading magazines and umm... i guess thats it. never really developed many hobbies.

I STILL do love watching movies. its probably my fav thing to do which seems terrible because its not a very productive hobby to have

-- Wed Oct 30, 2013 11:50 pm --

Samantha_E wrote:Yes! I love bed, and if I am not in bed, I am sitting on a recliner sofa on my laptop - like now! I sleep way more than people think is normal.

Oh yes, 'go for a walk', 'get some exercise'. Quite annoying as it seems so troublesome. Really, it is so annoying just to have to go to the bathroom!

As for getting out of it... I find that if I try to get into doing lots too soon, I just want to spend MORE time in bed because it was too much. So I would suggest starting small.

If you want to get used to just being up and about, people say exercise gives you more energy and makes you less tired, which I think it does (if you take it easy). But again, start small! Instead of overwhelming and inconveniencing yourself with walking outside, perhaps something such as walking around your living room once per day. It sounds silly, but even realising you can motivate yourself to do THAT much is good. Even when you do not want to get up, walking around the living room is simple and takes a matter of seconds. Even if you feel you could do more, that might make it feel like more of a chore the next day, so limit it. Then, over time, as looong a time as you want, increase it. Something is better than nothing!

This is just an example. The idea is just starting very small and doing it every day.

I hope that helps.



Thank you Samantha_E!!! your advice is appreciated!
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Re: does anyone lay around ALL DAY?

Postby Lady Mondegreen » Thu Oct 31, 2013 8:40 pm

That happens to me all the time, sometimes I manage to crawl out of bed to grab a snack because I haven't eaten all day, though
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Re: does anyone lay around ALL DAY?

Postby weepingwillow » Thu Oct 31, 2013 11:37 pm

noreally_imfine wrote:Lately, Im having a lot of trouble getting OUT of the house. Maybe because its getting cold too?

Yeh, walking when it's cold is even more reason to stay in bed :wink: As Samantha_E said tho, you could try to do something at home. Maybe set yourself a task for the next day - something small that you think you could manage.
noreally_imfine wrote:Just started talking half a pill of Lexapro (5 mg) on Monday night. I hope it doesn't make me gain weight...

I hope they start to work for you soon, it can take a few weeks to notice an effect. I hear ya about the weight gain!
noreally_imfine wrote:Hobbies/interest that i USED to enjoy. lol. love how you wrote USED to --its so true! I used to enjoy exercising but i have developed neck and shoulder pain/stiffness for 2 yrs now and it has brought me into this great depression. all i can do for exercise is walk. trying out a new treatment plan on fri hope to God it works. i used to enjoy reading magazines and umm... i guess thats it. never really developed many hobbies.

I STILL do love watching movies. its probably my fav thing to do which seems terrible because its not a very productive hobby to have

lol, yeh I said USED because there are loads of things I USED to love but depression kinda steals them away from you, it's hard to even remember what you liked about them. But trying to keep doing them even a little can help to remember and get some enjoyment back.
I hope the new treatment helps your pain! I have chronic pain too so know what its like to have it hold you back from things you want to do.
What kind of magazines did you read? Maybe buy one and just have a flick through? even if you don't feel like reading it.
I love to watch movies too! Do you have a particular genre you prefer? I love anything scary! Don't worry about it not being productive. If you enjoy it - who cares? :wink:

((Big Hugs)) and take care
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Re: does anyone lay around ALL DAY?

Postby Lady Mondegreen » Fri Nov 01, 2013 3:53 am

I think we should appreciate anything that we manage to enjoy, even if it's not productive. I enjoy movies, too. When I really like a movie, I end up watching it too many times because I associate it with feeling good, so I watch it whenever I'm bored/down to try to feel better.
I also enjoy reading, but it's hard to concentrate as well as I used to.
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Re: does anyone lay around ALL DAY?

Postby JamesH » Sat Nov 02, 2013 5:52 am

This is literally ALL I do, I don't work, I have no motivation to find work or do anything, I sleep for 12+ hours all day, and only wake at night and sit at my computer playing games or messing about on the internet. The reason being is that there's nothing out there for me, no responsibilities, and, the way my life is going, a very bleak future. I'd rather be asleep than think about that or how much I hate myself and want to die or go out and do terrible things just so I'm doing SOMETHING.
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Re: does anyone lay around ALL DAY?

Postby noreally_imfine » Sat Nov 02, 2013 9:33 pm

JamesH wrote:This is literally ALL I do, I don't work, I have no motivation to find work or do anything, I sleep for 12+ hours all day, and only wake at night and sit at my computer playing games or messing about on the internet. The reason being is that there's nothing out there for me, no responsibilities, and, the way my life is going, a very bleak future. I'd rather be asleep than think about that or how much I hate myself and want to die or go out and do terrible things just so I'm doing SOMETHING.



JamesH,

you said you don't work. I was just wondering... how do you support yourself or do you get help from others? I know thats kind of a personal question but my job is causing me a lot of physical pain and I HAVE to work cause i can't afford to support myself and my mom doesn't have money either. I was just wondering when people literally can't do anything cause they are depressed, what do they do about rent food and all other bills?

-- Sat Nov 02, 2013 9:36 pm --

Lady Mondegreen wrote:I think we should appreciate anything that we manage to enjoy, even if it's not productive. I enjoy movies, too. When I really like a movie, I end up watching it too many times because I associate it with feeling good, so I watch it whenever I'm bored/down to try to feel better.
I also enjoy reading, but it's hard to concentrate as well as I used to.



It is SO HARD for me to concentrate on A LOT of things, not just reading. When people say certain things that i MUST remember, I repeat what they said to try and remember it easier. I think maybe if I say it out loud, I'll be able to remember it more easily. Is your memory like mine?

Also, I do that but with songs instead of movies. I abuse the CRAP out of songs. If i really like it, ill listen to it over and over and over again.

-- Sat Nov 02, 2013 9:43 pm --

You have chronic pain too? How do you deal with it? Do you work? Does it get in the way of work? Have you been able to find any type of treatment that helps? Sorry I'm asking so many questions. I am COMPLETELY overwhelmed by my chronic pain.
I would read Women's Health magazine and I'm starting to like the magazine Glamour a lot. For genres I guess my favorite would be a romance comedy type movie but I really like all kinds of movies. Actually, horror and the real classic older movies are probably not my favorites.
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