I'm so messed up right now

I'v never used this type of site before, but i really do hope someone can help me. I was Diagnosed with depression back in 2000 after taking an overdose. Before that i was a Heavy drug user, mainly cannabis.
My head is so messed up right now, i really dont know where to start i'v never felt so low.
I feel i have no future at all, no job prospects ect.
I have no qualifications and now i'm to old for an apprenticeship (i'm 25), i feel im already dead in the water. I'm so paranoid and insecure and so scared of life irarely go out in the day unless i really have too. I really dont know where to turn for help, and where to open up fully. I have had a girlfreind for almost 7 years but she doesnt know how to cope with me or support me.
My family doctor who i saw fortnightly has recently retired, he was one person i could tell everything and wouldnt judge me and would help alot, but now i feel no one understands me.

1) List problems as a facts (ex: a)depression, b) no job, c) no future, d)unsatisfying relationship)
• Identify specificly you want to change (every part that you don’t want)
2) Identify what you want instead. (What kind of job, future, relationship do you want?)
3) List all ideas how you can get what you want.
• Most likely you have depression because rest of your life not going well, but to start doing well you need to feel that you can get yourself out of that mess. To stop depression do opposite of what you are doing now. And let me tell you if you do what it takes, you get what you want.
• How do you want to live? What do you enjoy doing? Even if you can’t get to college research, read books on your subject. Do what you can.
• Tell your girlfriend what you wish for, and be fair if you don’t do it don’t ask her to do it for you.

If you do something to improve your situation, or find a way to get better at parts that you suck at, you will feel better.

Great advice ok

HI

I WAS SO LOST . I MEAN IN A WEEK I GOT EXAM WHICH WILL DECIDE MY FUTUER AND YET I CANT STUDY , ALL MY FRIENDS HAVE FINISHED STUDYING ALL AND PREPARED FOR THE EXAMS . NOW I FEEL I CANT DO IT , BECAUSE OF THIS I AM MESSING ALL MY FRIENDS AND PEOPLE HAPPINES WHO ARE CLOSE TO ME . WHAT DO I DO

To george82

I had similar experience.

Know this: if you won’t make yourself you will fail; so put all of your effort to make your self. Saying I can’t shuts your future; more accurate statement would be I wasn’t able to do so in the past. (Then look at what prevented you, and try fixing that) No matter how badly you study it is better to do something then doing nothing.

You should stop comparing your self with others; how they do is measure of them; how you do is yours, (you are separate) just do your best. You have friends who already know this stuff? That is grate; you could ask them to explain something and they can test you. Also, if you study you won’t have time to mess up anybody.

You should take studying as your job (You have to do it there is no choice). Just as you go to classes no matter how bad you feel, same way you should study. Get away from anything that takes you attention. Where ever it is quiet and no temptation for doing something else (library, empty classroom) is your pick. Get all the stuff that you need to go through (books, notes, etc.) Then divide all by 7 and start now! Remember to take brakes at least each hour (otherwise you brain won’t function and you waste your time.)

I just read book “How to Ace any test” and I will give you summary of my notes when I get home.

Ok, george82 here is more help!

You know times in you life when you were afraid and steel done it, you have to do this time. You are afraid because you don’t want to fail; when you start studying, you’ll feel better.

You know that leaning is everyday process, however there is a lot that you steel can do. And week is a lot of time you could do it if you work at it.

Separate each part of your life. (When you studying stop any thought that doesn’t relate to learning)

Identify how you spend (ed) every 15 min in a day. Then take out everything that not important/ not priority.

Brake down whole things into small steps. Write outline of what you need to do, and put check when you done it.

Reword your self after learning part (let your self have what ever you do for fun now, ex: eating treat, music, forum, and friends)

Plan how to multitask (ex: when you have free spots –bus stops, short brakes get out your notes, or flash cards {which you don’t have to buy just cut any paper and write term and answer on other side), or tape{you can record your notes, or read out loud chapter and listen when you ride car.).

In your books, put square around all: Terms, Names, Dates, facts and underline with wavy line explanation or write them out in as notes or on flashcards. Put prentices around examples. In your short words write summary on margins.

If you run out of time, read summaries. Read intro and conclusion. Read first and last sentence of paragraph because that where main ideas can be stated and summarized

Acronyms take first letter of terms and make it into a word.

Also terms that hard to remember find words that sounds alike or remind you of you term and then try to connect meaning of the term with term’s name. (ex: bygsor {means men’s trousers in Swedish) so this word can remind you of boxer, big sore etc. (anything that sounds alike/reminds) then you connect big sore in trousers, or boxer in trousers.) Read Supper memory super student by Harry Lorayne when you get the chance it really can make you remember anything in a easy way.

On the test: to calm down breath deeply, and tense and relax your muscles.
Write down things you afraid that you will forget.
If you have to guess in multi choice (first tern statement into question and see what you know) a) if two alike pick one, but if they carry the same meaning they both wrong b) if there are opposite pick one c) aim at middle d) Absolutes as –always, all, never, usually wrong. Do easy ones first and then come back to hard ones. Divide time you get on number of questions you have. (usually it’s 30 sec) try to keep up.

Good luck.