My "Perfect Career" Sucks

I recentley landed a supposedly great job with a well known company. The benefits are excellent. The ladies I work closet with are catty and nasty. I thought, "it's just b/c I'm new... it will wear off." Well, it's not. They are younger than me and are little brats. I took a step down in this job. I was in management. Now I am a bank teller. My manager is a male. One year older than me. He doesn't really give a $#%^ as long as he is made to look good. One of the young ladies has only been there two weeks longer than I have and is being taught way more than I. Even though we both perform equally. I know I can take care of my children if I stay here. I AM SO UNHAPPY. I want to go back to the restaurant. My family and friends think I'm crazy. They say I should just ignore it. It's not that easy when they are the coworkers you work closest with. I'm torn. The benefits are here. But the joy is not. Any suggestions.

Being the new gal on the job plus in a new place is hard. Is it possible to give yourself a date by which if it isn't better you change jobs. Being unhappy is not the way to live. I always believe that the 3 month probation period works both ways. If I think they aren't cutting it at the end of three months then I can tell them goodbye.

I guess you have to sit down and really think about what you want your life to be right now. Sit down and decide just how much money you TRULY need to have to meet your nessary bills. Then decide what things you can really live w/out. The extras. See if you absolutely need this job is what I'm getting at. 6 years ago I found myself in a job that was not making me happy. My husband and I decided this was the best time for me to not only quit but just flat out start my "career" as a "stay-at-home mom"! We are living tight right now. But we are so much happier. Sure we miss out on some things. Last year we were not able to fly to Florida for his sister's wedding w/ the rest of his family. That sucked. But for all the other things we are afforded as our own family unit day to day, it makes up for those types of things. We might not get to take weekend trips and stay in hotels. We might not get to eat out all the time. We might not buy as many fun little extras as some families that have more money in their budget do. But on just my husband's income we have enough money to pay our necessary bills. I won't lie. He's not a dr. or lawyer. So it is tight. He doesn't work at say a Wal-Mart either. So we are not scraping the bottom of the barrel and he does have a good job w/ good benefits. I'd say we are in a place where we break even and do ok. We have a modest home. We can buy decent groceries each week....can buy nice clothes for our young daughters...take them to the dr. if need be. Yes. It is hard to save right now...right now we are pretty much living pay check to pay check (our own fault....we didn't start out our marraige saving well!!!). But I guess what I'm getting at is if you sit down and look at your savings.....try looking at where you are now....what your basic needs are and what you want to accomplish not only financially but for your family as well. Remember that it's about your family as well. Your children will look back and remember their childhood. Do you want them to take from this time a mother who was always stressed and angry ....because they'll remember that far longer then a great home and great clothes!
I grew up w/ parents who were able to take me on trips...able to take me shopping for nice clothes, etc. etc. And I can tell you that what I remember best about my childhood is not those trips....when I think back to my childhood I think back FIRST to the times my mom sat and read stories to me or I think back to how we spent Christmas together....what we did for our Easter holidays. I don't care what we did at Disneyland or what we did at some fancy hotel. My best memories are what we did in our own kitchen at a Sunday family breakfest. Those were my best family memories. So my point is that yes....I know you need to find a job that first and foremost pays your bills but also remember you need to find one that allows you to wake up each day w/ some inner peace and happiness and allows you to be your best for your family. Because sometimes when it comes to your family. It really....deep down....isn't always about money. It's just about the quality and quanity of time you spend w/ them.


oh ....and I don't mean to imply that you should consider quitting and become a stay-at-home mom!!! That choice was right for me....what I'm getting at is that if this job doesn't feel right for you and you feel you want to consider going back to your previous job or you feel you want to look for something else.......don't be afraid to do that, etc. for the reasons I was getting into.....hope I didn't sound like I was pushing the "be a stay at home mom beacuse it's all about family"!!!!!!!!