Can someone listen

Hello forum,

Amazingly enough I'm here, ... I have really messed up both financially and personally and I am backed into a corner of fear, not knowing what to do. I can't sleep, I can't think, I'm stressed out, and have no one totalk to or listen.

At this point I could possibly be going to jail, lose my family, and lose financially for my actions. All I hear from my wife who hasn't worked for nearly 6 years is that my judgment over a short-term span has potentially ruined our lives. I have no family, and no friends as I've alwasy been a work-a-holic, and now I face all of this alonve, and as much as I look at it, ... perhaps the best solution is just the insurance on me to my wife. Maybe then, everything can be made better, and they can go along in thier life sayine I made mistakes, and it can all go away.

I have a 3yr old little girl that I love more than anything in this world, ... not ever knowing or having a dad, it saddens me I even think of the above but I am so scared, ... and not having funds to discuss everything through with an attorney, ... and jobs being hindered because of explaining what happened, ... I'm left out here trying to solve the world and it's overwhleming.

Will anyone talk to me, ... all I want is for this to go away, and to wake up and have hte opportunity to start over.

Hi my name is joe, I am sure with alot people on this board, they have heard "tommarow is a brand new day" but for you it means nothing. It seems to you like your headed in only one direction...."Doom" . I would hope that whatever financial trouble your in will turn out to be fixable. As for your depression I know that therepy and in most cases medication will not solve but turn your thinking around for the better. Having a loved one (your child) and not being able to support them must really destroy any hopes you have for yourself and them. Hang in there, if nothing can get you through the days and nights of this terrible time hold your daughter snuggle with her and cherish her. You are meant to be there for her, and she is meant to be with you. I am sorry if this isnt helping but I want you to know I am listeing and will pray and hope that you will triumph in your struggles.

Hello,
I just read your post and I am so sorry that you are going through so much trauma in your life right now. No one deserves to be in as much pain as you are, but you are doing the right thing by trying to reach out and get help for yourself. Although you probably feel as if no one cares, you really should try to reach out to family members or your community and ask for support. I'm sure that there are many people who care about your well-being and would be willing to help, even if you don't realize it. I know it's hard to reach out, but if you won't do it for yourself, do it for the sake of your daughter. You have the power to save yourself from all of this. I know this might not be much, but I believe in you, and so do many of the other people on this forum, because we can identify with some of what you are going through. It will be difficult to get through, but you can do it.
Good luck, and know that you are in my prayers.
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You post really hit me in the fact that I'm in a situation similar to yours but at the other end of the spectrum. My husband keeps lying to me. I made the SACRAFICE to quit my career and stay home with our children who I love and adore but I now feel I have lost all of myself- if that makes any sense. And when you noted that your wife hasn't worked in 6 years that really bothers me. You don't know how alone and demanding it really is to be at home. You lose all sense of self worth. I'm gaining weight. We financially can't even afford for me to get a haircut. I use to be so pretty and now I'm disgusting. The only thing I had going for me was my walks with a double stroller just to get out of the house and now that broke. I've gained 30 lbs since I've had my children. I'm so sad and lonely. Mostly for my husband who works all the time and is so exhausted when he gets home he just sleeps. There is no time for me. Ever. I just cry all the time. Now I've discovered that he didn't make our mortgage payment and now we are two months behind which is impossible to catch up on. I just want to scream what happened to you? What happened to the vows you made to your wife? How can you lie? Don't you realize its not even what you've done as much as its the deception that really becomes so painful. Please find counseling for you and your wife. I'm going to a priest tomorrow for myself and I've signed us up for counseling. I feel like such a failure as a wife. Like I was never enough for him- to keep him happy and honest- perhaps that is how she is feeling and you don't even know it.

well, what the heck, that may be another viewpoint to this situation, and i think that you had good intentions, it just may not have come out liek that, maybe what you mean is, she really needs you too, and maybe not just for your daughter, but for her too, either way, i hope that it gets better for you, there's welfare isn't there? and hey, it's a way out, and a way up, not down, so take it if you can. good luck