I feel like my life is passing me by

I graduated from University a few years ago and I didn't find a job in what I studied. I'm unhappy where I work and sad that my career isn't going anywhere. I have so much potential and drive but it seems like I'm nowhere close to finding the career I'm looking for. I'm looking for jobs but I've had no luck.

I'm in a relationship where I dont know if my boyfriend is the one. We're so different in many ways but he's a nice guy and he cares about me so I'm with him. I have many doubts about us but I care for him too much to leave him. I dont know if this is healthy for either one of us.

I feel like everyone around me is progressing and I'm still stuck. I've always tried to live a good life and I dont know why this is happening to me. I want a positive change so bad!!

Please give me some advice and hope. I feel sad and lonely and unhappy and tired.

Hi. I hope this helps. When I dropped out of college i felt hopeless. I had no friends, i talked to no one but my family. I wanted to go to university but i found it so difficult to live.
Today i see hope. Because i am thankful for everything i have, and in being happy in what you do have, you can then move on and try different things with your life. Only you can make a change. My bro left uni with a degree in sumthing he cant find a job in, and its been two years since he graduated! He probably feels hopeless too, but we dont talk much. If you know that your relationship isnt going anywhere then let it go, BUT u have to think about what your boyfriend feels. From what u said he really cares about you and maybe you can work the problems you are having together. As for the job thing, keep trying and don't forget to do the things in life that make you happy. that's what living is all about. x

Many people end up working in fields that were not what they studied in college. A person spoke to us parents when our kids were starting at his college--he said only about 1 out of 10 people work in what they studied at his college--as far as the records go.

I've often been surprized meeting successful people who never studied what they are working in. What is important is getting a college degree. It is proof to an employer that you have yourself enough together to get a degree. It demonstrates that for a certain amount of time you were able to show up for life. Many people can't suit up and show up.

Good Luck,
Jim S

THank you both for your replies..

My boyfriend and I have been on a break for almost 3 weeks now.. mainly because I wanted one.. because I had doubts about us. We've broken up @ least twice before, but we always got back after a few days. He has really been ther and we've both tried. But for some reason my doubts have never really gone away. I feel we dont connect in every level sometimes. we're so different in some ways and do things differently.

Anyways today we talked about stuff and decided to go our seperate ways. I am feeling numb and just not sure what is happening. I feel this pain in my heart and not sure if I am making a mistake. But I can't go on being with someone feeling doubtful.

I've never loved someone as much as I've loved him but our relationship has gone through a lot. So maybe we're doing the right thing..

As for the job thing.. I understand what you are saying. I guess I'm not the only one feeling this way. I'll keep trying.

Thanks for writing, Its comforting to read.

I'm a college grad but have found squat in my field. I was brought up through college with one goal in mind, but everything they told me was a lie. The job I wanted has other requirments and not I have to either stick with my crappy job that I loath going to every day or go back to further my education. Damit. I just don't know what to do.

I hear you Sweetpants,
I feel the same way.. I'm looking for jobs now... I really want to find something that can give me growth..
I've looked into going back to school too.. but I dont feel passionately about anything @ the moment.. so maybe later..
right now I want to do something that I enjoy doing.