my mother is going crazy!

My mother loved my father all her life , he was her only men. Now he's 52 yo and fell inlove with a 28 yo womanl.Well this shouldnt have been exactly a trauma but I think it was for her...
She loset weight (16 kilos in 2 weeks), all she can talk is revenge - she wants to hurt my father , that 28 yo woman (which btw only wants my fathers money cause she never worked a day in her life) and everybody who has been hiding my father relationship with that woman from her.
My mother has also beccome paranoid: she thinks that me and my father want to get rid of her and that we are expecting her to die. Also shes afraid that we will all end up in the street because my father will loan money from the bank to give money to that woman.
All she talks is nosense and she has a strange gaze.Sometimes when she's pissed off she cant control herself or doesnt realize what she's doing and she just starts yelling so loud.. I've never heard anyone yeal that loud.

God has now all her attention and she says she isnt eating because it's good to not eat meat and milk based products before Easter. BUt she doesn't eat at all!!! Also...she's talking about suicide in the week before Easter and she prepared towels for the funeral...

But my mother never been the suicidal type. Never have I thought this would be possible...

She promissed that she will go to the Church tomorrow and then start to eat again.... I'm afaid that she wants to commit suicide after going to church.

I've talked to her about going to therapy but she told me that I want to put her in a mental institution and get rid of her.

What do you think about this? Is it a trauma what she's going through?

Oh .. And I forgot to say , my mother is also going through menopauze.

Oh, I would say this is a trauma. This is the only man she's ever loved in her life?

She's paranoid, you say. Well, yeah. Apparently people knew about this relationship and lied to her. She's thinking: What else are they lying about?

Unfortunately, much as I would like to say she's probably going to be fine, it doesn't sound like it. She needs to talk to someone. She very well could kill herself. She's too old to bear children, which in her mind makes her unmarriageable, and too young to look forward to an imminent death from natural causes, so yes, in her humiliation and betrayal, I would say suicide is more than possible.

JamieX,

If your mother is contemplating suicide, you need to talk to her and eliminate the possibility of such a threat. She is, after all, your mother. That is the first and foremost issue you should tend to.

Once, I read an article on how a guy was over at his friend's house, attempting to divert his friend's focus on suicide. His friend was quite the introvert and I don't think his life was, at all, stable in his mind. He was in a state of depression and intended to carry out his plan to commit suicide. His friend tried to calm him down and told him to get some rest to feel better. Seeing that his friend might be coerced to commit suicide, he decided to stay the night just in case anything were to happen. In the middle of the night, his friend woke up, retrieved his gun from the drawer, opened the front door and apparently, went to another place and ate his gun.

The aftermath of the story was that his friend regretted so much for not doing enough to avert such an event. He felt responsible for his friend's death and of course, you can imagine how it will bear on him for the rest of his life.

I don't really know why I relayed that story to you.. it's just really sad I think.

You might not see your mother's intention on committing suicide as important as the core problem that your mother is suffering from. But I would advise you to talk to her, son-to-mother and mother-to-son, and try to understand her problems. Let her know that you show no hostility. Don't neglect what she says; she may sound irritable at first but let her know that you're listening. And if worse comes to worst, see if she accepts counselling. Professional help is better than first-hand help.

I hope all goes well with your mum.

infekt

Tnx for your replies. I was very scared at that moment and played the shrink for my mom cause she wouldn't go to seek professional help so I didnt have time to replay.
I threatned her that if she won't start eating again ( I almost forced her to eat couple of times) and she does commit suicide I will do the same...I know it wasnt quite the best thing to say to her but ... it worked.
Shes still depressed but her paranoia is almost gone and she doesnt want to die anymore since she started to eat again.
Hope the bad thoughts wont come again.