Being with someone who has DP/Dr

Hi guys, I joined this website today because I was hoping that any of you can relate to me, talk to me give me feedback as well as make me feel that I'm not alone. I have been dating this guy for 4 months. When I meet this guy he did not have DP/DR. Everything was great we meet on a blind date he was in the marines awaiting his last month there. Now everything was going great but weeks after he stopped talking, txting me a couple weeks later he calls me and explains to me that he has been feeling a certain way out of his body. After a couple days he came to the conclusion that he had dp/dr. We started talking he would cry to me ask for me to help him. I was commited to researching about his mental illness and sticking with him but then everything changed. I was seeing him change as time progressed he wouldn't txt me as much no calls , I felt bad but I really wouldn't mind his ways. Just recently we became boyfriend/ girlfriend and it's getting hard, overwelming. He will not want to hang out, ask to hang out txt me nether the less call. He is so distant with me I talked to him about it and he claims he cares for me but his dp/dr is taking a toll on his life. What I don't understand is that he has been having dp/dr for 3 months now and now is when he is becoming more distant?? Before he had dp/dr worst and he would call me when he wanted to talk or he felt bad. Is he getting used to it should I care??? When we spoke about this he said he is going through a lot, I asked if having a girlfriend at this time was a a bad time to tell me, he doesn't want to end things he just wants to take things really slow, what does that mean for me what position do I play? And what do I do?? Help please if someone is in my shoes!!

I can see where he's coming from because I am the same a lot of the time but I can also see it's toll it's having on you. I think he wants to care for you but because of the dp/dr he lacks the empathy or emotional disposition to do so. It's a very difficult situation as you want to do something so badly but your mind is telling you that you can't and won't allow you to. If he does seem distant, it isn't because he is losing feeling for you, it's because he's probably losing feeling for everything. From the sounds of how much he has changed over 3 months, it seems he has it quite badly. Maybe it's because of being in the marines? Dp/dr has been linked to PTSD. Try and give him morale and ego boosts and make him feel as if he has a true sense of identity. It sounds difficult but even just the fact that you care for him may help him through it.

Hope I have been of some help to you.