How to identify if somebody has DPD?

I have borderline personality disorder. I want to date somebody that is utterly obsessively in love with me, like people who have dependent personality disorder. I value the qualities that DPD people have where others do not. How do I find people who have it? And then get them to need me?

Don't post to tell me I'm crazy for wanting that, or that it's wrong of me to want to those qualities in a partner, please.

My dear friend, I was neither going to call you crazy nor say that your wishes are wrong. Howevr, I wanted to tell you that looking for specific qualities in a partner is a sure way to never be happy with anyone that you actually meet up with. I abide by this statement strongly. It is better, in my opinion, to remain open about a partner and to simply take opportunities as they come. If the person had schizophrenia, then - hey - why not?! If they had bipolar and were crazy artists, then all the better, right? I'm trying to get he point across to you that anyone can be a good partner ... it's just about how you both work together and how your lives combine.

Take care and best of luck
Kevin

this sounds wrong to me...like you want to take adventage of that person... "Oh I know the person with DPD can't survive on his own so he will never leave me". Thats sick.

Unimportant wrote:this sounds wrong to me...like you want to take adventage of that person... "Oh I know the person with DPD can't survive on his own so he will never leave me". Thats sick.

Well it isn't a normal, healthy emotional demand, but I wouldn't say it is perverse. Both Borderline PD and Dependent PD are personality disorders. If someone with a personality disorder wishes to seek out another person with a personality disorder so that they can both meet their (disfunctional) needs, how is that a bad thing? It is not as though either party is being harmed. Anyways, I see no problem with someone wanting someone who is 'obsessively in love' with them. If their dysfunctional emotional needs require such a thing, and someone else wants to love someone obsessively, it seems mutually beneficial and no harm is done, so long as it is kept in mind that both parties are disordered. Then again, I don't know much about either PD. B and C cluster PD's are foreign to me. Perhaps I will continue to monitor this forum.

Hahaha, CC came here to walk among piles of dead forum members to make sure ALL of them are dead. If someone managed to survive and is hiding underneath a piles of corpses, stay there, because CC will just put you out of your misery. It's all a part of his plan to take over the world!!!

What, are schizoids the only ones who continually trespass other forums? I'm not surprised at all.

EKO: My apologies if you don't have SPD, you are on that forum often enough to assume that you at least think you might have it. (I don't expect you to see this though).

SolitaryWolf wrote:What, are schizoids the only ones who continually trespass other forums? I'm not surprised at all.

No not at all, I'm just bored/curious

If you are really BPD, you will likely get bored of the dependent eventually and have constant affairs . I have seen it before

We with DPD will find you.

Well the explicitly stated "get them to need me" is a bit worrying. I mean, I guess you could start by killing all of thier relatives/companions. Or you could lock them in a cage without food or water, then be the one to show up spontaneously with said food and water. You could also simply be the person who drives them to work. Not that Im suggesting any of these ###$ up things . You see why getting people to need you is damaging?