someone suggested this to me, I don't know if I am but I seem to fall in love ,get feelings for or become attracted to women who show me a lot of attention. I feel that I should latch onto anyone who wants me and although I have become better at being discriminating with anyone who wants to know me I still find that this is a problem.
when I get to know a girl well I start to look at all her good points and think about how this makes her great partner material ,I don't see their faults quite so clearly or I oversee things which would make most people avoid them as a partner. I start to get feelings quite early on and find that I have to somehow hide them and keep them to myself and try and play along with a charade of just being friends.
eventually what messes things up is that something will happen where she is very upset and needs some type of emotional support and I overcompensate by spilling out that I love them or suggesting it. i'm aware that i'm clingy or needy but I can't think of how else I can support them without letting them know how much I care and what I feel. I think to myself this will help with things, but it never does and I end up ruining everything, she gets freaked out, scared,it breaks down and I lose everything.I end up feeling heartbroken.
it just seems really messed up, I worry that I am going to end up being friendzoned, that someone else will move in on the girl that I like, or that if I leave it too long she will lose interest and think i'm not interested in her like that. so I get impatient and spill out what I feel, I keep ruining things and I can't seem to stop myself falling for girls that take a strong interest in me.
is this dependance or something else?