Staying with a spouse with DD

Hello.
I am new to the forum and so happy that such a place exists. My husband has DD and we have been struggling with it for almost 2 years. He has delusions of persecution and grandeur. I love him very much and do not plan to leave, but I am having a very difficult time coping. I have been plagued with horrible tension headaches and migraines, which are caused by stress according to neurologists and the accompanying MRIs. I sought counseling, but I can not get my husband to any form of treatment unless I threaten divorce. Then he says "I will do whatever you want." I fear that this tactic will not last for long as he has gone off his medication numerous times and lies to me about taking it. He thinks that I am the only person that is not in on "it." I am mostly just venting, but I also feel that my psychologist, friends, and family are all pushing me to leave my husband. They keep saying that I should not sacrifice myself, but I do not plan to leave. How did you explain to family members that you are committed to staying in the relationship through thick and thin, delusional or not?

Welcome to the forum. Here you will get much support, sympathy, and understanding, but I am afraid the advice will sound a lot like what you are already getting from your friends and family.

There are a lot of participants here who sounded (past tense) like you in regard to marriage commitment, but could only take so much. No one was joyful about leaving, and I am sure had done all they could to save their relationships. Of course, each person has to decide for themselves what to do.

I, for example, am still deciding. I am waiting for me to be able to foresee the outcome of the latest venture, my DD wife finally on meds. But it has been only a month, so the jury is still out. But if it doesn't work out, I think leaving is my only option.

Are there young children involved? That could be a factor. You are lucky that he doesn't consider you one of "them". That should keep you safe from harm.