delusional wife.....or am i crazy

kent_eh

can you tell me more about your story and about the DD P which i assume is the persecutory. I have been told by one therapist that he thinks it is the pesecutory delusions. i would really like to know more.

MHLONEWOLF72 wrote:kent_eh

can you tell me more about your story and about the DD P which i assume is the persecutory. I have been told by one therapist that he thinks it is the pesecutory delusions. i would really like to know more.

yeah, Persecutory.
The last 2 years in a nutshell: She believes that she has been drugged and gang raped by a revolving cast of characters repeatedly since she was 4 years old. Yet until 2 years ago, she managed to suppress all memories of that decade or so of horror, and live a happy life unaware of these things until late 2008/early 2009 when she suddenly remembered it all in great detail (much better detail than a 4 year old would likely remember - license numbers, names and addresses...). And that one of the regular attackers was both a successful high school teacher and city councilor, while at the same time also a prominent psychiatrist in another city. Who was then assigned to her case when she was hospitalized at age 40.
"Clearly" it's a huge conspiracy against her. Our family is under threat of imminent attack because of ... something I can't understand because I don't know everything. But it's all her fault, and we have to do something (tell the police, or abandon our lives and move somewhere we aren't known, or...) to prevent this from happening.

She is angry at me because I'm not supporting her because I don't automatically believe every word of her story. And I had her "locked up" in the hospital just before Christmas.

Fortunately, the changed meds seem to be working better than her previous ones, and she is likely to be discharged from hospital in a week or so. I hope to be able to have her agree (in writing) to continue with outpatient treatment as a condition of her discharge.

Here's my introductory story for more of the recent history.

thank you for the information. do you think if she hadn't taken herself in for treatment, that you would have been able to get her to go??? sounds like now you are the bad guy for doing what is right. how did you get her back to the hospital the 2nd time?? i hope things improve for both of you. this is a Great forum and i look forward to your input and ideas

MHLONEWOLF72 wrote:thank you for the information. do you think if she hadn't taken herself in for treatment, that you would have been able to get her to go??? sounds like now you are the bad guy for doing what is right. how did you get her back to the hospital the 2nd time?? i hope things improve for both of you. this is a Great forum and i look forward to your input and ideas

She still laments that going to the hospital the first time was "a mistake".

The 2nd time, 2 police officers showed up at the door with the court order for her to go to the hospital to be assessed. She didn't have a choice.
She would not have gone voluntarily, she told me that so several times.

here is the thing i struggle with. my wifes views on things aren't way out there. they could possibly be real....affairs, things missing, and ect.... all of which aren't true, but they at least could be real. the thing that is the hardest is how absolutely bitter she is. if i try to explain it she just gets mad, and i still hear the same things over and over. lately its why did you have to let things get to here to want to try, why didn't you care enough, why didn't you put our family first....on and on. i would never claim to be the perfect husband. i have on occasion when we are out in public looked at other beautiful women, think to myself...wow that is a gorgeous woman. thats it. no actions, no comments or fantasies. to my wife however i am a monster. if i loved her i wouldnt need to look at all. then it turned into when we go shopping i follow them in the store. i have been blasted numerous times for absolutely nothing. if i look in a general area and there happens to be an attractive woman in the vicinity, whether i am looking at her or not, the pain begins....counless times i will deny it, but then i am a liar, i am lying to myself, i will never get any better. my life is a roller coaster....some days i feel great....others like today i am lonely and just wish i could say or do something to make it all o.k. does it ever get any better????, i watch my life falling apart, and the only saving grace is i know my kids are happier and in a better place. is there anything positive to expect.....

Hey man, not sure if your still floating around on here, but wondered how things are going? I've lived through what sounds to be the exact thing your going through, can give you some insight and thoughts based on my opinions and experiences if your interested.

Hi TommyTomkins,

I am new on this forum, and I really hope to hear your experiences. I recently found out that my mom was suffering from DDJ. Unfortunately, she has suffered from this illness for the past 13 years, and we were ignorant that all her accusations against my father were due to this illness. I just managed to take her to the hospital two weeks ago, and she was prescribed Zyprexa 5mg. I was wondering if the dose is too small to treat the illness that has been there for so many years. But at the same time, it seems that such medicine can hardly erase the previous delusions completely. If that is the case, I would rather ask the doctor not to increase the dosage because my mom is in her late 60s, and I do worry about the side effects of the medicine.

I would like to post more to share my experience later if it turns out that the med is effective. Thanks for reading.