Jealous Delusions

I recently got out of a relationship with my partner who I think might suffer from Delusional Disorder (jealous type). Before we started dating he had on several occasions made false accusations towards me. We met each other through a mutual friend whilst we were at university, he picked interest me in me and we talked for a while and lost contact. When he resurfaced back into my life shortly before I finished my course at university, he asked to take me out for dinner. I agreed to meet up with him, on the day we were to meet up, he called me and at the time I was in the library when the call came in. Although I picked the call I had to whisper. Fast forward to the date and he told me that when he called me and heard me whispering he thought I was with another man (hence me whispering to him on the phone).

At the time I laughed it off and did not read too much meaning to it. On several occasions he would make reference to me being with another man for example, one night he rang me, and as we were speaking his tone changed and he said he heard voices in the background and again asked if I was with another man (I had to explain to him that the phone was on speaker and the noise he heard in the background was from my housemates who were in the living room (my room at the time was on the ground floor next to the living room) even with this explanation he was sure there was a man in my room causing the noise he heard in the background.

He also went on my social media and saved images of me with comments from a guy he was convinced that I had had sexual/emotional relations with (he based his claims on the names the guy referred to me as e.g sweetheart, dear). Bearing in mind this guy was in a different country and continent, we became friends via social media. When I told him I had to travel to go and see family, on my arrival he requested that I take a picture to prove that I was really with them.

Anyways fast forward to when I went to visit him at his place, this is where things took a turn for the worse and the false accusations tripled. Firstly, it started off as him saying he saw how I looked at his housemate and he was convinced that I sexually desired his housemate. He would say things like "I saw the way you rolled your eyes at him", "I saw the way you walked past him, flaunting your bum so he could have a look". Then one morning I woke up to a letter requesting that I get out of his house. The days and weeks that followed were filled with more accusations, apparently he said I woke up in the middle of the night and snuck to his flatmate's room and had sex with him, he even added that his flatmate confirmed that he had sex with me. When I requested that we confront his housemate to confirm these claims, he refused and made excuses saying that it was not necessary.

He would send me messages asking me why I betrayed him by sleeping with his housemate, he said that I nearly drove him to suicide. For a while we had no contact and we later started talking again, but nothing had changed even as friends, he would bring up his claims of my infidelity when we talked and texted and even try to make me admit to his claims. He tried so hard to get me to agree to his version of events and would get angry and call me a lair when I refuted his claims and disagreed with him. He would say things like I cannot be wrong and I have facts that you cheated and when I would ask for proof, he would say the same things he always says "I saw the way you looked at him, I am sure you slept with him"

I remember one night he woke up and woke me up and told me that I had been on the phone to his housemate. Some of his other claims involved him accusing me of sleeping with my ex housemate who he was friends with, apparently he had spoken to my ex housemate and when he mentioned my name to him, he had a look on his face which was similar to how I look when I have orgasms. With this he concluded that I had intercourse with my ex housemate.

At the early stages he had mentioned that he was a really jealous and paranoid person, again I did not read too much meaning to this until he started to exhibit behaviors that clearly confirmed his claims. Fast forward to a few days ago he still messaged me trying to get me to admit that I cheated as well as laying other accusatory claims and insisting that I had a problem and needed to change my ways to avoid ending up in trouble and lonely. I am glad the relationship ended because the accusations were constant and he would find reason to question my intentions and motives towards him under the disguise of his claims that I gave him reasons to doubt my intents.