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Need quick advice for my newly delusional wife to get thru..

Postby BlackCat5 » Sun May 06, 2018 3:17 am

The weekend.

She is completely off the rails this weekend. She thinks every comment, tv show, song, book, billboard, etc. is directed specifically at her, demeaning her and telling her how I'm about to take the girls and leave her.

The doctor put her on olanzapine 12 days ago (5mg in morning, 5mg at night) and can take up to 4mg of Xanax per day. About 2 per day had been sufficient until my parents came to visit, but I made her take 4 today and I wished it had been 5 or 6.

Before bedtime she started getting angry and wanting a divorce because I "ruined her life". I've always been her advocate, and this sucks in so many ways. But in a practical sense, it sucks right now because she is literally misinterpreting every single thing that I say (and everyone else, for that matter).

In the last week, there have been some times that she was admitting that she was having delusions, but the pressure of having my parents visit has clearly pushed her too far. And they have done NOTHING but be supportive and kind.

Right now she's sleeping in our closet, which she barely fits in. That has been her safe space the last couple of days.

I was going to set her up in a nearby hotel room, but there is no way she'd last 30 minutes without an eye on her girls. Plus, I think she needs some supervision, anyway. She's clearly confused and says so often.

How can I nurse her through the weekend? We have a therapist visit on Monday and psych 2 week follow up on Wed.
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Re: Need quick advice for my newly delusional wife to get thru..

Postby Alexicon » Sat May 12, 2018 4:10 pm

BlackCat5, I'm sorry you didn't get an answer sooner. I think people hold back because they've been in similar situations, and they feel helpless and don't know what to do.

In my experience with my relative, stress seems to be a huge trigger, as it boosts anxiety. Any change is stressful, even a temporary one, like family coming to visit, or a spouse leaving for a few days of travel.

It's good that your wife is open to medication. Hopefully on Monday, her medical team listened to your description about the weekend and adjusted her therapy and medicines accordingly.
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Re: Need quick advice for my newly delusional wife to get thru..

Postby Stutteringjohn » Fri May 25, 2018 5:14 pm

It is always helpful to identify with the feeling behind the delusions and not the delusion itself. "I can see how nervous this is making you and that must be hard." I am sorry you are going through this. I posted about my experience and I know how hard it is. Feel free to pm me.
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Re: Need quick advice for my newly delusional wife to get thru..

Postby Sunnyg » Sat May 26, 2018 3:43 am

Usually the meds start to sedate then reality starts to come back in bits and pieces. Hope that helps. My sister likes to go to a nice spa or hotel and practice self care when she struggles. I prefer to just stay home, and chill out. If you can promote self care, and comfort - that is best, and keep the kids preoccupied.
Hope that helps.
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