New and Heartbroken

My husband had his first psychotic break last summer, though it had been building for some time. His delusions at that time were based primarily around mind control, but also around his divinity as a reincarnated God. He could control weather, was psychic, etc. They did not decrease but stabilized at that level of delusion.


Over the holidays he found a house that he was convinced was his, the car in the driveway his, etc. , from particular celebrities. After going there and staying for hours at a time on multiple occasions trying to remember the code on the key box for realtors, he decided the guys he was working with in his head- all important people, high ranking in government- were messing with him. He seemed to let it drop with no mention.

The delusions seemed to be building again beginning in March, April, and May. He believed my ex husband was sneaking in our house and eating our food. He believed he had children with Prince, who was actually a woman, and with Madonna. He grieved the woman who was Prince's loss and cried for days. He believed he had 10-20 children across the US he had to find. He began to accuse me of being with him in other states 20 years before I met him, and of my children not being the age listed on their birth certificates.

12 days ago he had a full break. While we were not home, he completely destroyed my children's rooms. He was yelling and screaming at us that my ex had been in the house and he found his clothes. He put 14 holes in the walls and destroyed furniture. I had a restraining order, but he left prior to that.

Since then he has decided he hates me. He never wants to see me again because he says I am lying about being with him 20 years ago (I met him 6 years ago) in other states. He wrote a letter to law enforcement saying that I abducted my children because the birth dates on their birth certificates are he says, incorrect.

I want my husband back. He refuses treatment. I don't want the divorce, I want him. His hatred, however, is very strong. This from a man who was my soul mate.

I don't know where he is for sure. I haven't heard from him in 2 days. He says we will be divorced in 3 weeks but he refuses to sign separation papers. His family tried to take out IVC papers, and the police never went to check on him... so they expired. I am heartbroken. I am being left by the man I love, because of these delusions. He would never have left me. What does it take for a delusional person to be hospitalized? Does he have to hurt someone or himself? Is there anything I can do and any hope my husband will come back? I'm not sure he will live long without help.

Hi,

Your post hit home because im going through a similar thing. My partner has been ill since he was 16 he is now 36 and no better. He was living in a hospital but he fooled them into thinking he was ok but he wasnt taking his meds. For the past 6 months his delusions of me cheating have gone from bad to worse. It has been hell. He is now currently in prison waiting to be sentenced. He is looking at 5-10 years. He wont speak to me, he wont reply to my letters, he wont let me visit, He has contacted other people so i know he is ok but he has told them to tell me to leave him alone, I messed with his head and thats why he is in there!!

All i ever did was love him unconditionally, gave him no reason to think i would cheat, never let him down.

I dont know if when he gets back on his meds (if he does) things will change and he will get in touch but for now its just the waiting game. We have never been apart this long and he has never stopped speaking to me for this long.

I hope your situation gets better and your man gets in touch when he has calmed down and calls the divorce off.