How do you cope with people telling you you're delusional?

Today I was at my psychologist, who told me the things I believe in are delusions, not real. It hurt me a lot and I instantly shut down. I truly regret having said anything about it to her.

How do you cope with people telling you things like this? Does it hurt you, or have you found a way to shrug it off?

I trust that the people who love me will tell me the truth, and I try to believe in them. It was hard to learn that I'm not 100% reliable, and that my memories are flawed. If a thought is sufficiently bothersome and I can't stop thinking about it, and my family and friends don't believe it to be reality, then I trust their judgement. I have lots of trusted people in my life. I learned I needed to build relationships once I learned I was sick. I need people in my life who I trust to help me. I can't take on my thoughts alone. It is too much to deal with without others insights into my beliefs. When I'm all up in my head, it is harder alone, than when I share and let people love me back to reality. Having social support from people like I've found here on psychforums has been really helpful. Sometimes the kindness of strangers is what we need to get us to the next level. Do you have support groups you can find peer support from in real life? Hope that helps.
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I've been in a similar situation many times, i've even been was told I was delusional by a group of people, and rumours later started to spread about me on a very large scale. This large scale occurence has happened twice in my life and it is a very, very painful thing to experience. When this happened I started to doubt myself, I was extremely depressed, but in the end I realized that the group of people that ridiculed me were wrong, and they're words should not be taken seriously.
I'm very critical with people now, I don't consider anyone a reliable source of information unless I truly trust their judgement and know that what they say is unbiased (i.e, they are not saying it just to degrade me). This is why harmful words like that no longer affect me, as they hold no weight in my mind. Remember, psychiatrists are not all knowing, and they can make mistakes in their judgement too, however, this does not mean that you should shun all outside criticism, especially when it comes from a professional.

I did say that I do not take comments like that to heart anymore, but they still do hurt, a-lot. I always try to understand why the person said what they did and if I am actually at fault, when I do that it really gives me a sound piece of mind. It would be worth a shot to do so yourself. Do a thorough analysis of what you said and why that psychologist said that you were delusional, it may lead to some insight on your own situation. I honestly have gotten into the habit of doing this every time I have a conversation with someone.

OtherworldlyCreature wrote:Today I was at my psychologist, who told me the things I believe in are delusions, not real. It hurt me a lot and I instantly shut down. I truly regret having said anything about it to her.

How do you cope with people telling you things like this? Does it hurt you, or have you found a way to shrug it off?

Please DONT shrug it off. That person is a mental health professional. They NEED to know how what they said affected you. They may even have been seeing how you would react, and if you would tell them, to judge how deeply your issues run.Talk it out with her/him.

That being said.. Shutting down isolates you from help. One day, I will share the story of my Mother, whom I live with. (Just joined the forums today.) But, even tho she accuses me of bad things, I would rather she share them than hold them back and destroy herself from the inside.

It used to be hurtful when anyone told me I was delusional but now I am so grateful. Believing the delusions was a very dark time for me. I have returned to my light hearted self, thank goodness! Always tell your provider what's on your mind. It's really detrimental to keep things inside.

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It used to be hurtful when anyone told me I was delusional but now I am so grateful. Believing the delusions was a very dark time for me. I have returned to my light hearted self, thank goodness! Always tell your provider what's on your mind. It's really detrimental to keep things inside.