Falling in love/ erotomania

I've already posted this here but I think I should have posted this in DDF so here it is:

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This post is serious. I know that maybe you don't have trouble when you like someone but I do.

I am asexual and I've never felt attracted sexually by someone but despite this I do fell in love with both girls and boys. However I prefer girls rather than boys because girls are cutest and I'm afraid of the boy's sexual desire.
When I like someone I get OBSSESED with that person. I can't stop thinking about him or her and I strongly desire to meet or see that person right now.
My friend said that this is normal if you fall in love but it kinda stresses me and when I get stressed I begin to think irrationally and suffer a lot. For example: People want to kill me, my friends hate me, aliens are spying on me, people envy me and want to attack my self-esteem...

I fell in love with a girl. She is kind [unfortunately with everyone] and pretty but we aren't even friends. My friends told me that I need to be her friend first and I know that she likes me because she finds my lack of shame and empathy funny and she told me that I'm great but I just don't have the pacience for it. I am delirious and I think that people love me [erotomania?] but it's a mistake because I'm almost always wrong but I can't stop feeling that way...

So... please tell me...

Should I tell her that I love her? Just to be sure if she loves me or not and to stop my hopes if the answer is no. But even having low shame it will be embarassing as ###$ and I'm afraid that she will lie to me because everyone does.. I am very naive.

I won't see her this summer so it has to be with whatsapp and it would be ridiculous lol

Now I realize how stupid is my post but please advise me! My friends don't understand me so I can't tell them about it.

Or maybe there are medications to overcome the paranoia and erotomania? I am so ###$ up.

I think you should tell her if you are comfortable doing so.
Ive suffered from Erotomania also, but as long you dont get really delusional, I think you deserve to find out.

However It comes with a cost, you migth loose the friendship. Maybe you could find someone to support you with this?

I dont think you are that delusional with erotomania, at least Im worse.

edit: okay Ive read that you arent even friends. Take my advice, because Ive been down that road: Its very unlikely that something is going to happen right away. AT least make friends first.