Need help with a family member.

My father suffers from delusion disorder that was brought on from past trauma. He was melosted by a priest and he walked in on his father sexually abusing his sister. It seems that getting wasted on vodka every night is his way of dealing with it. He is not a dead beat in any way however, He holds a job pulling in near 6 figures. He has to be busy doing something or else the delusions creep up on him and everything goes side ways from what i can tell.

When he is not having bad episodes he normally talks along the line of "i punched this hockey player so hard that i ended his career." which doesn't bother me that much. However when he sinks really deep into his delusions he goes extreme and says his daughter (my sister) wants to have sex with him and that they should be together and that she professed her love to him. My sister got far away and still loves him but understands that it is a disease that he is in complete denial about. Those moments when he sexually harasses my sister i leave the house because i will end up in jail if i do not. I know it gets worse when he drinks but he refuses to believe any medication can help him and he has to escape in alcohol.

It also seems whenever he has something good going for him he goes out of his way to end it as quickly as possible. He just last night sent drunk texts to his band memebers saying he is fed up with stuff that they have been saying and doing which never was said or done. I feel really bad for him and have tried multiple times to get him to see a doctor but he refuses. He gets in his head that one band member put ruffies in his beer one time and no matter what you say to him he refuses to listen to logic.

I have talked to him when he was sober and he states that, " he knows what he remembers and believes are not real, but they are real." so he knows they are delusions but he cannot accept it deep in his mind.

I want to find a way to help him because he already ended a relationship with his daughter over this and i don't want him to loose more.

any feedback would be appreciative and thanks!

The best approaches to getting the person into treatment may be found in this book http://www.amazon.com/Not-Sick-Dont-Nee ... 0967718929 "I'm not sick and I don't need help"

Also, try a family to family group at NAMI. You may meet people who can help you.

Sunny