She eventually sold the house and moved in with her widowed mother. She continued to make claims that the water, the air conditioner and the coffee were being tampered with even though my grandmother was home all day and night and never witnessed anything. She also began to believe that the neighbors in my grandmothers area were also involved with my dad and this "army" she's imagined. She would vent to her siblings, children and mother and get very angry that no one was doing anything to help catch my dad. In some way, a few people believed her for a while and attempted to give her a safe haven but eventually everyone slowly began to accept that what she was saying is not true. But still no one will accept that she has a mental disorder and needs medical attention.
She just lost her job bc of other delusions about a woman she works with (who's engaged to be married) stealing a man that she was interested in that lived several states away.
I have to say that I did believe her in the very beginning bc I believed everything my mother said my whole life - why shouldn't I? She was my best friend and the one person I trusted more than anyone. I began to see through all the nonsense she was making me believe but I chalked it up to her having a rough time dealing with the divorce but now that she has lost her job and is threatening to run off to some other town/state and have no contact with anyone, for the first time, I can finally accept that I have a mother with a real and very serious mental disorder and she is ruining her life and the life of those around her.
I think back to my very first memories of my moms work history... there has been someone that she does not get along with or someone that is trying to sabotage her work or reputation at every single job she's had for as long as I can remember.
She is also obsessed with law enforcement - exclaims her excitement that there's a cop living in her apt complex (she finally moved out of her mothers), got excited that a family friend was promoted to lieutenant at the local sheriffs office and according to my sister, she planned to contact him to help her make her escape plan to run away without a trace. My (now) husband comes from a background of law enforcement connections and we first started dating about the time my parents were separating. When her delusions began, she asked me to bring him over to her house so she could tell him the story and he could get "his people" to save her. When he began to ask questions to better understand the situation, she became very defensive, broke down crying and became extremely angry with him. Bc of this, over the course of the last 5 years, she has convinced just about everyone of my family members and even some of my friends that he's a bad person. Just a couple of months before my wedding, she convinced my matron of honor that he was a terrible person and I was making a huge mistake by marrying him. I was then confronted by my MOH bc she was so concerned, contacted my mother to elaborate on what she was so worried about and all she would say is "You know what he did....". Umm, he didn't do anything. But it caused a huge and very unnecessary fight btwn he and I.
She's always very defensive about everything - if I make any offers for "Mother - Daughter time", her response is always, "What? U think I don't want to hang out with Son in Law?". If anyone has or does something nice, like gets a fancy new car, her snippy response is always "Hm, must be nice." If my husband and I are traveling, which we do often, "Why wasn't I invited?". These are all serious responses on her part - never sarcastic.
I don't know if mental disorders are hereditary or run in families but her sister had Bi-Polar disorder and possibly a few other things that I'm not aware of and she ultimately commited suicide about 25 yrs ago.
I don't know what to do. I've contacted psychiatrists and they all say the only way I can force her to seek treatment is if she is a danger to herself or others. And she is positively hard-headed. If I mention one word about thinking she has a mental disorder, she will completely lose it and never speak to me again. I'm afraid to tell her anything she doesn't want to hear for fear of her shutting me out. But if she's planning to run witihout a trace, she won't speak to me anyway... Help! Please
