Hypersexual helped by meds?

Hi Coastermom!
thank you so very much for your precious concern. Iʻm doing much better!! Youʻre right, they were old enough to know better... guilt and shame are my oldest companions, and somehow... this will be the spark to help me finally break free from these chains!! I came out of my tail spin on Monday then got craaazy busy with work. Will see my therapist on the seventh, though. I am really grateful for all that you shared! I know that deep healing is coming because of it : )

And you.... ARGH!!!! is right!! And the rollercoaster kicks into full throttle!! I donʻt HOW your husband restrained himself from ringing his dang neck! Even with all the wisdom and insight you could share with her, it must feel pointless as if everything will fall on deaf ears. Iʻll be praying for you, your husband and your daughter as you ride this particular "Goliath!"

Thanks, F&R...

I'm glad you were able to pull out of it.

things here are definitely spiraling. My daughter initiated the contact with the old BF. She knew he'd take her back no matter what. She'd had another guy dump her on Thurs/Fri; flirted with another via text on Friday/Sat; saw and flirted with a guy on Sunday that she really DOES like and would be so good for her (and really likes her too, and would so honor and cherish her); but right after that, she wanted to know if she could invite the Fri/Sat guy over (we said no because we were leaving) and then when we get back the guy she dumped two months ago is back. The guy she TOLD everyone to hold her accountable NOT to take back because she KNEW he was bad news....

Monday night she refused to come home. Yesterday she drove to another state to meet his parents (which was kind of ugly with his mom) and get his birth certificate (now gee... wonder what he needs a birth certificate for). She got back at 6am this morning from that. I know from other sources that on Monday night he asked her to marry him. She was bragging about it at a job interview yesterday morning and telling them that her parents were gonna be really mad. Really? At a job interview? ugh. Brilliant. She hasn't had the guts to tell me about the engagement, but I'm guessing their plans are to move really quickly.

Today we mentioned her dr appt tomorrow and she indicated she she was unhappy about that -- because she knew we were gonna say she was unstable. She doesn't think she is. She thinks she's going after love (it's so not love from either of them, but just use/need). The spiral started long before the contact of the old BF, too, and I reminded her of that.

Reminded her, too, of a letter she'd written to her depressive grandma, telling gma that gma didn't see herself all the time and needed to listen to those around her. DD blew a gasket and declared she didn't want to talk about it. End of discussion. I know she won't be open to a med change at tomorrow's appt.... don't even know if she'll agree to stay on her current meds (although she is taking them now without arguing).

Her psychologist told us she needed to come to a crisis... i've prayed for it, even... but living it is hard....

YAY. appt went fairly well, I think.... she complained to him that everyone keeps telling her she's unstable and she's not. And he listened to everything I said and everything she said (and honestly she implicated herself a couple of times!). After saying she wasn't having issues with instability or impulsiveness, when he suggested adjusting her meds she asked if she could just try on her own without adjusting. He asked her what she meant and she said, "well.... like try to think through things better and not be so impulsive." (wait, didn't you just say you weren't?! ) Anyway, her psychiatrist adjusted her meds and she agreed to it! Not very happily, but at least she didn't kick me out of the room and refuse! I was so afraid she'd look at me, claim she was 18 and not even let me go in.... phew! Of course, she immediately ended up with the abusive boyfriend (whom I made nice to... sigh), but... at least she's not throwing the meds out the window yet!

Coastermom : )
This is great news considering! She could have cut you out, but she didn't. You prolly had to swallow a whole lot to make nice to the abusive guy, but that must have spoke volumes to her... You are her greatest ally and just maybe she's catching on to that truth! small steps, but I know they mean a lot... Like the med change when she could stop all on her own if she wanted. Soooo glad she didn't run off with the guy and elope!!! Horrors!! Hopefully she'll recognize the difference and feel more stable with the med change!

actually.. she would've eloped today if we'd given her half a chance. and i'm hoping that's not the only reason she agreed to the meds -- that she was planning on being gone from our household anyway....

i saw a text she sent to a friend saying she may be getting married today and then she asked for her birth certificate to "go get a belly button piercing." Yes, she's good and she thinks i'm not. We've stalled it -- didn't have a birth certificate, and "helped" her file for one through the mail (sort of didn't mention it could be done online!). heading on a sudden long weekend vacation out of state as soon as we can get out of here this afternoon.... hopefully a fun-filled weekend that reminds her how fun her family is (he hates people in general). Hoping meds adjustment is right and that it works quickly....

Well... today our party of 5 became a party of 4. Had a great time on our long weekend out of state (with the exception of watching her buy a $22 wedding band). But... our beautiful little rebel has flown the coop. We got back around 1am this morning. I noticed mid-morning that she was gone.... With most of her pill bottles (she missed one). She finally answered my texts with one sentence: I moved out. Presumably with the abusive creep she told friends to not let her go back to. DH is a mess. Honestly? I saw it coming. I think she has to do it to hit bottom. I'm resigned to the marriage, even. At least she made an attempt to take her meds with her. But he doesn't want her on meds, so not sure how long that will last... let alone the fact that she can never remember to take her morning dose on her own....