Guess I don't belong here...even though I do

Hello,

I see a lot of similar posts here, though none that really mimic what seems to fit for me. There is no question for me, I am a compulsive liar. I lie about everything. Things that matter, things that don't. Even if there is no reason to lie, I do it anyway. In fact at this stage of my life I think up lies more easily than I can come up with the truth.

I don't want to stop lying. It's not that i get pleasure from lying, or that I do it to avoid some type of punishment (though no question I do this) I lie because it comes more naturally. I lie because lies give me a reason to be imaginative, because i'm bored, and since i'm often amused that with so many supposed tells of a liar I never get caught. I spin such elaborate lies that I have trouble remembering what really happened verse some of the lies I have told.

Lying does not adversely effect my life in any way. Although I must admit I'm at such a stage of apathy that if it did somehow affect me I doubt I would care anyway. Am I alone? it seems many are in a perpetual state of worry over their lies, struggling desperately in vain to rid themselves of this "burden" Personally I wish I had some skills that could compliment my lies, let me lie myself to a successful position requiring a degree and make some real money, while proving that while yes a degree can be helpful, most jobs can be taught and we should allow those chances when possible.

Perhaps I should have been a spy, or a lawyer..but there's that degree thing. Forgive me for being to poor to consider a further debt burden. Ironically everything i've written here is truth, I found no liberation in it and i'm bored. Feel free to discuss. Anyone in the same boat as me? Or does anyone care to analyze, love to hear your perspective.

I'm not in the same boat, I lie frequently, but to appear normal and boring to the outside world. I don't see any harm in my lies, nor do I often have problems in being caught out in them. I don't see this as compulsive lying, since it comes out of my schizoid traits. The other people posting in this forum have a very different and significant set of problems, that my behaviour doesn't begin to compare to.

Perhaps it's similar for you, with StPD? The lying is a symptom, not the whole disorder?

I suppose it could be a symptom of Stpd. I do lie at work frequently to create the illusion that I have normalcy outside of work. It has nothing to do with caring about what people think of me, and more to do with the fact that socialization is the door to success within my company, not your skill set. I had not really thought of it that way, so I appreciate your insight.

Gday mate

I worked 12 months with a proficient compulsive liar and it took me all of about 3 hrs to realise something was sus. After 1 month I couldn't stand him, and politely told him I didn't want to converse with him with anything other than work because I thought he lied too much. This had no effect what so ever, and he continued to tell me and everyone else ridiculous stories. Little did he know that he was the absolute laughing stock of the company and everyone involved with it. I'd get phone calls from random people he'd spoken to asking if he was for real and saying they never want him around again. In the end he was sacked. The whole time he was convinced that everyone believed him and that he was well liked, which I'm tipping is what he wanted, but nothing could be further from the truth.

You've gotta realise that just because people don't call you out, they still know you're lying to them. And it probably repulses them, much like it did for me. You'd be surprised just what's being said behind your back. My advise is to 'fess up and change your behaviour.

cheers, alex